(02-19-2019, 10:29 AM)Have at ye Wrote: [ -> ] (02-19-2019, 05:45 AM)Infinite Wrote: [ -> ]I actually treated her the way that you just suggested. I see it as having treated as if she was beneath me because of the way that I was raised to treat people. I was taught to be really polite, to be nice even to people who hated me and mistreated me. Thanks for sharing your point of view, it helps me to see it for what it really is.
I oftentimes do the very same thing.
Some people may be impolite, aggresive, etc., because they're scared, having a bad day or something, and the it's very much fine to respond by trying to show them some love. They will really appreciate it.
Others use such behavior as a power play, and these types of folks won't respond to positive stimulus like a "sane" person would - in my experience, it'll only make them see you as an "easy mark". So the most practical approach is, I believe, the "you are beneath me" approach. They may fume and try to "show you your place" in response, but sooner or later they will respond by accepting the fact that you are the dominant side in the interaction - and either try to avoid you, or try to suck up (I'm not kidding, it's pretty disgusting when it happens 
). It's how many people seem to be wired. It's typical "social climber" type of stuff: crap all over those who you perceive as having less power, and suck up to those who you perceive as having more power. In my line of work, people often become indoctrinated to act like this.
The aggressive dudes I referred to in the night club example (I haven’t gone to night clubs for years, and haven’t had any problems like this since) are coming from a place of ‘I need to impress women with toughness and superiority, because otherwise they won’t like me’.
We are told nonstop (by scientists, PUA, Hollywood, etc) that women only like ‘genetically superior’ guys (with power and social status) and sex is only about reproduction, and that women exist entirely to get pregnant by ‘genetically superior’ guys. So it is understandable why some guys, at an old night club, were acting the way they were acting, and starting fights with guys to show that they are ‘genetically superior’. These guys were doing it to get laid / pick up chicks.
I believed the same BS too about women only wanting sex with ‘genetically superior’ guys, and I used to get so depressed because I was the lowest (social status) in my old circle of friends, and was their ‘butt monkey’ (think Meg Griffin from Family Guy) that they used to constantly make fun of to impress others.
I dumped those friends a few years back, except for two of them, who have outgrown the ‘put others down to impress chicks’ crap. I also learned that night clubs are full of insecure people, and I avoid them since I have too much self-esteem / self-respect to intentionally go to places that guys will pick fights with you just to impress some superficial, shallow chick(s).
Modern society also tells us BS such as you must lockdown / control your partner, because ‘genetically superior’ guys will take them away from you, and women are hypergamous. And that women cheat nonstop, etc. and women will leave you for guys with the most power / social status, because they are hypergamous, etc.
No wonder big, muscular guys go around in nightclubs and intentionally pick fights wih other guys, and constantly try act dominant and ‘genetically superior’. They obviously have internalised the ‘genetically superior’ paradigm(s) that modern society parrots nonstop.
I also found out about AYP / manifestation within the last few years, which places serious doubts about the ‘women only have sex wifh genetically superior guys’ paradigm that has been repeated to me my whole life. If a person can manifest sex using a subliminal, than logically the ‘women only have sex with genetically superior guys’ paradigm must be wrong and flawed. If most guys can attract sex partner(s) with AYP / manifestation, then the ‘women only have sex with genetically superior guys’ paradigm starts to break down and fall apart.