(09-28-2018, 08:37 AM)Jake2015 Wrote: [ -> ]Just had a quick read of Shannon's journal about looks.
I feel looks don't seem to matter to women that are either yes ugly or women that are older.
First problem with your argument is the use of the word "feel". Feelings are illogical and irrational. You're not thinking with your logical side when you feel. Feeling arguments are therefore typically illogical, irrational and incorrect.
Quote:By older I mean approx 30+.
Women from the age of 18-30 will have the minorities for whom beyond looks what truly matters in a relationship is values and morals however for the majority what they find as the perfect man usually is the proverbial Prince charming, the quarterback etc.
If this wasn't the reality of life then movies wouldn't make movies of such.
I never said that looks don't matter. What I said was that for my girlfriend, they don't matter, and my girlfriend is relatively hot. I was making the point that looks will matter to a different degree for each woman, and therefore, if you wish to get past limitations based on looks, simply find a woman who values something else more.
Quote:Having been to many universities in my lifetime so far I have always come to the conclusion based on observations that women above 18 always seek out good looking men as their mate for sex and a relationship.
They only during a relationship will then consider other factors beyond looks which is the same for men too on the whole.
I have been through more than a decade of college at multiple institutions as well. The average woman will consider looks according to her age, her personality, what her friends think, how much she is a leader vs a follower, how much importance she places on what others think, and how shallow she is. The types who value looks tend to be in the majority when they are younger, but they are by no means the totality.
You are also failing to take into account that everyone seeks out others for sex based on what they find sexually attractive, and when you haven't met the person yet, you tend to go based on available information at hand: looks. But spend some time with them, and they have other things available for consideration, such as intelligence, personality, sense of humor, attitude, confidence, knowledge, skill, experience, etc. How much a woman goes after you based on your looks is heavily influenced by how much looks is all she has to judge you by.
Quote:Above 30+ approx women tend to forgo men's looks based on what level of a provider and safety provider he can be as for them the body clock is ticking yet if they could get the whole package ie good looks too they will go for that.
You are either going based on what you have experienced or what you have read. But what you have experienced will be a projection of what you believe, and therefore attune yourself to.
Quote:A key requirement for many women has been grooming and grooming means congruence to the image that male is trying to exhibit. As long as he groom's as best as he can he raises up the image ladder in her eyes if he is indeed what she finds attractive.
Women have a nose 2x to 10x more sensitive than men do. They therefore consider how you smell a lot more than you might think. And when you don't stay clean, you're going to polarize yourself via your pheromone signature. Either your pheromones will say, "He's not compatible reproductively" and signal this through negative scent association (i.e., you smell bad) or "he is what we are looking for to reproduce with", and creating a positive scent association (you smell good). When you don't groom yourself (primarily, staying clean) you create this polarizing reaction, and some women will respond very obviously to it in a negative way. Most women are not going to be reproductively compatible with any given man. So when we wash off those sex signals, we represent a blank slate, and they neither react positively or negatively to our scent, giving us a better chance of getting our foot in the door.
It's mostly about smell, not looks.
Quote:I found when I was good looking I got more attention than no2 as an older less attractive male. My personality has improved my opinions have matured and I have become a better man for it but body image matters and counts.
For those women for whom that is true. Now if you attune yourself to those women who understand and appreciate what you bring to the table, they will show up in your life.
Quote:Of cos this is all my current belief system and I welcome DMSI to change this in any way possible to allow me to attract higher sexier classier women than normal but my current world view is based on my years of observations.
We have to figure out how to get past your resistance to change.
Quote:Excuse any typos as I am typing from my phone and also haven't had time to read all posts as time is scarce for me once again.
Ps: I just finished reading all of the journal entry from Shannon and didn't see if this realisation from Shannon means that he can now include something else into DMSI which will work on changing this new "fear/lack of new belief acceptance" that he has had an epiphany about?
I am in the process of optimizing the fear removal modules included in B17, as they work, but need streamlining for speed and such.