(09-28-2018, 08:37 AM)Jake2015 Wrote: [ -> ]Just had a quick read of Shannon's journal about looks.
I feel looks don't seem to matter to women that are either yes ugly or women that are older.
By older I mean approx 30+.
Women from the age of 18-30 will have the minorities for whom beyond looks what truly matters in a relationship is values and morals however for the majority what they find as the perfect man usually is the proverbial Prince charming, the quarterback etc.
If this wasn't the reality of life then movies wouldn't make movies of such.
Having been to many universities in my lifetime so far I have always come to the conclusion based on observations that women above 18 always seek out good looking men as their mate for sex and a relationship.
They only during a relationship will then consider other factors beyond looks which is the same for men too on the whole.
Above 30+ approx women tend to forgo men's looks based on what level of a provider and safety provider he can be as for them the body clock is ticking yet if they could get the whole package ie good looks too they will go for that.
A key requirement for many women has been grooming and grooming means congruence to the image that male is trying to exhibit. As long as he groom's as best as he can he raises up the image ladder in her eyes if he is indeed what she finds attractive.
I found when I was good looking I got more attention than no2 as an older less attractive male. My personality has improved my opinions have matured and I have become a better man for it but body image matters and counts.
Of cos this is all my current belief system and I welcome DMSI to change this in any way possible to allow me to attract higher sexier classier women than normal but my current world view is based on my years of observations.
Excuse any typos as I am typing from my phone and also haven't had time to read all posts as time is scarce for me once again.
Ps: I just finished reading all of the journal entry from Shannon and didn't see if this realisation from Shannon means that he can now include something else into DMSI which will work on changing this new "fear/lack of new belief acceptance" that he has had an epiphany about?
I have the exact opposite happen to me.
I’m fit and ripped, and have a great physique from years of gym training, running and swimming.
Yet, women who are <30 avoid me like the plague and totally ignore me. I even get IODs from them. On buses / trains they never sit near me, and will stand if the only free seat is next to me. Middle aged women don’t mind sitting next to me though (though middle-aged women only sit next to me if the other seats are taken).
At uni, the women (<30s) avoided me and sat away from me in lectures, except women who were middle aged. Two middle aged women offered / gave me lifts, but neither made any moves. It was handy to get free lifts though.
The only women who have shown any interest in me are between the ages of 37 - 47 specifically.
‘37yo woman’ (M1) has said several times she wants to sleep with me (the group home situation makes it complicated). She has also been naked in front of me (and her tits are beautiful, fully natural and slightly smaller than the average ten-pin bowling ball). Her brain damage is a huge barrier to sex happening, so I’ve given up on getting with her. I still see her occasionally for lunch, as just friends.
A who is 39, walked up and grabbed me and kissed me. Nothing sexual happened though and the attraction seems to have ‘fizzed out’.
M2 who is 39 says that I’m ‘hot’, but doesn’t make any moves on me. She just calls me ‘hot’. TBH, I’m not that interested in her, but enjoy being called ‘hot’.
D who is 47 (I mistakenly said she was 45 in another post(s). But found out recently that she is actually 47) has made out with me several times. She keeps on flaking / ghosting whenever any dating plans are made, so I think that maybe she doesn’t really want to date me, but just wants to make out (which is still awesome). I often she her with different guys, so she is likely a Nympho (I don’t mind Nymphos).
All this interest has been in the last year and a bit (since 2017). I have yet to experience sex, BJs or handy-Js though. Making out is the furthest I’ve gotten so far.
As one of my close friends said:
“You’re like weird art. The weirder the art, the more socially divided people are about it. Most people will dislike you. But a niche group of people will absolutely love and appreciate your weirdness.”.
Another friend says about me:
“I find your unique brand of social awkwardness to be refreshing.”.
I am quite different from the typical 30yo male. And most likely a statistical exception to your argument that “women who are 18-30 are mostly interested in looks”.
But my experiences suggests that women 18-30 do NOT consider looks the most important thing (otherwise I would have the 18-30s making out with me and calling me ‘hot’, and sitting next to me, etc.). Instead I seem to attract middle aged women, and repel younger women.
I reckon these middle aged (37 - 47 yo) women are interested in me for more than just looks.
Only one of them has seen me without a shirt (37yo woman) and she said that I “look good”. The others have only seen me in a long sleeve hoodie and jeans, so they have never seen my physique.