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Shannon
Huge thanks for answering my AYP questions.
Any suggestions of dealing with fear? (Enough to execute AYP)
Any suggestions for ameliorating fear?
I only have one real major fear, and that is (false) rape charges,
My state has just received / created the ‘toughest sexual consent laws’ [sic]. Many of the legal defences for the defendant have recently been taken away, including the ‘subjective fault elements’ (e.g. ‘the honest belief that she was consenting’, etc).
Anything pertaining to reputation is now ‘inadmissible’ (another defence gone / taken away).
Also, the definition of rape has just been expanded to include ‘consensual but unwanted’* type scenarios.
* As per Aziz Ansari babe.net story / “Cat Person” definitions of ‘consensual but unwanted’.
Sentences are typically 14 years in jail or so, plus going on an offender list that prevent many careers / jobs, etc.
Fines can also apply, and are no joke either, and can be up to $55,000.
To be acquitted, the defendant now must prove, extensively and with objective evidence, that he took multiple steps / measures to ensure that she was ‘enthusiastically’ and ‘actively’ consenting, and that she didn’t ‘withdraw her consent at any time’ while the sexual act(s) were taking place.
Of course [sarcasm], gaining much of this evidence is illegal by privacy laws (i.e. recording conversations, etc.).
These new consent laws are being described by judicial personnel as ‘best practice’. This implies that they may be federal soon.
I think / feel that this fear is justified (meaning that it is based on objective circumstance, and isn’t a random phobia). I also think alot of this fear is around how complex / complicated this new legislation is making consent.
Though, I can perceive how my conscious mind may try use it to try sabotage / block manifestation efforts.
Things like flaking, ghosting, etc. seem annoying. But I’m not scared of those.
Regardless, based on Shannon’s answers to my AYP questions, I probably won’t have to worry about these things happening (flaking, ghosting, etc).
I hope that my subconscious is properly executing AYP FWB, despite fear(s).