(07-12-2018, 01:46 AM)thor2014 Wrote: [ -> ]Sarge i disagree strongly, PUA is like giving someone crutches to help them walk. Its toxic especially for those with self esteem, asp or other related mental disorders.
PUA never existed 20 years ago and guys were still getting laid. No amount of PUA will help an unattractive guy get laid.
A lot of things didn't existed 20 years ago.
As far as society exist, there has been some activities that humans have done for centuries with moderate success. Such activities include selling, public speaking, politics, courtship.
Then something called science came. It is the process to analyze, make experiments, conceptualize ideas to better understand in order to create knowledge allowing people to learn skills and get predictable and repeatable results.
Using science on those millenial activities made optimization possible and made results measurably much better.
Many successful people do use social and psychological sciences in their interactions with others and get great results.
I guess that it comes down whether or not you believe in science.
One possible objection against using science in courtship could be that you could objectify women that you interact with and/or you become a social robot.
To that I would answer that it is a question of balance. Don't overly rely on science but don't ignore that it exist neither.
My best influence bible is the Principles of Influence from Robert Cialdini. The guy is a psychology researcher and everything he writes is backed by scientific social experiments. So the thing is serious and isn't BS. Ignoring that those things exist and are real and can be used by you to get what you want is silly, imho...
and most PUA stuff out there is basically applying Cialdini influence principles for flirting...
Beside, nothing is unidimensional in life. I don't even understand why some people argue that there is only 1 thing that is good to get success with women.
Being irresistible sexually is a quality.
PUA/flirting is a skill.
Can you get result with only one of those things? Yes. I believe that you can get even better result if you possess both.
Someone earlier in the thread did use a car driving analogy saying the using DMSI was like stop applying the handbreak while driving.
So lets use another car driving analogy. If you give the best car to a pilot, is he going to win the race? You gave him a strong advantage over the competition but unless he knows how to drive, winning isn't guaranteed...
Finally, there is good PUA material and BAD PUA material. Don't ditch the whole thing because you had only experienced bad material...