(05-30-2018, 03:34 AM)Jake2015 Wrote: [ -> ]So guys ive posted my journal to update what ive been upto and then wrote the following which seemed to be what I have evaluated whilst I was on DMSI.
I want to know what you all think and what @Shannon thinks too please.
Thanks
Quote:I have realised more - again is this due to DMSI I dont know - that I am a Beta Male, even though I do feel Alpha, because I make girls friends rather than lovers. I however do believe this HAS alot to do with my image and no matter what anyone says LOOKS do matter to women as much as they do to men.
A women needs to be attracted to a man in the same way a man needs to be attracted to a female. Its basic common sense. If you are a good looking man then you will get the girl. - if anyone wants to challenge this then please do. - I may post this on Shannon's journal to see what he and other say regarding this.
There are other potential reasons why you might make girls friends instead of lovers than just being a "beta male".
No alpha makes every woman his lover unless he is seriously seeking validation or operating on some really fucked up beliefs. You know that a true alpha does as he pleases, and has no need for any one particular woman. He has what he wants and needs, and the rest can take it or leave it. So women come to him because he is confident and self providing, as well as self assured and having other options. He is, in a just a few words, very high value. As such, he freely accepts or rejects offers from women as he sees fit. He is not a slave to his dick or anyone else's expectations or validations. He does as he pleases. Regardless of what others think, say, do or approve of. Shy, of course, of being carelessly hurtful of others. (Some women and beta males will attempt to use "you're hurting me" as a manipulation tactic; alphas see this and remain unaffected by it. But they do not intentionally hurt people just because they can.)
An alpha male can take on a woman as "just a friend" because he is simply not interested in her sexually. Sometimes, she is a network web point, which he will accept as a friend in order to expand his social circle with and through her.
Now if you're making all women friends and doing so out of fear, then you may have an issue. But again, that doesn't automatically make you "beta" or any other designation of that type.
And you are wrong. Looks do not matter to women as much as they do to men. Looks are vastly more important to a man than a woman. You can prove this to yourself by going out on the town and observing the number of value-mismatched pairs you encounter over a month or two. Based on looks alone, you will find that the value mismatch favors hot(ter) women with lower value (appearance wise) men between 2:1 and 3:1 over the reverse. In other words, you'll only rarely see a "hot guy" with an average or ugly girl who he is involved with and/or having sex with in a relationship, but it's not really that uncommon to see a hot girl doing that with an average or even ugly guy.
Women are more prone to assessing the total package, because women have different priorities. She is seeking one thing above all else: SECURITY. If she can find it in the way she needs it with an ugly guy, she will go after that ugly guy. Average and ugly guys are much less likely to cheat on her because they are lower value and therefore have much less chance of replacing her.
Furthermore, it depends on what he has to offer, and what her personality type is. If she is a passionate or intellectual focus, she will be much less likely to be seeking the kind of security that overrides "what others will think of me for dating a 'lesser' male". Emotional and sensual focus types, the reverse tends to be true.
And as to what he has to offer, women seek not just security, but to FEEL GOOD. If you make her feel better than anyone else, she will most likely choose you, regardless of anything and everything else. So fat, ugly, skinny, out of shape and even sometimes deformed guys have a shot with hot(ter) women if they have, for example, a great sense of humor that matches hers; or a sense of confidence that makes her feel safe the way she needs to; or the money to provide for her and keep her financial insecurities at bay; and so forth.
Not every woman has the same insecurities or the same level of insecurities. Some women have relatively few or no insecurities, and they will seek men based on how happy and good the man makes them feel. Some women are deeply insecure, and will "settle for anything" as long as he is willing to be her security blanket. It just depends on the woman.
My current girlfriend for example, tells me that I am the best looking man she ever dated, but she doesn't really care about that. She cares about the fact that I am honest, reliable and trustworthy, and that I make sure she is safe and taken care of in the ways she needs to be in order to feel safe emotionally. She knows she can always rely on me to have her back, no matter what. She points out women all the time who are interested in me and showing it. Sometimes I notice, and sometimes I don't. But she thinks it's funny. Again, because she knows I am loyal and trustworthy, and she can trust me. I chose to make her my one and only because I knew she needed that and because she was worth it, since she gives me everything I need in one woman in return.
It all depends on what that particular woman needs and wants.
