02-19-2019, 10:29 AM
(02-19-2019, 05:45 AM)Infinite Wrote: I actually treated her the way that you just suggested. I see it as having treated as if she was beneath me because of the way that I was raised to treat people. I was taught to be really polite, to be nice even to people who hated me and mistreated me. Thanks for sharing your point of view, it helps me to see it for what it really is.
I oftentimes do the very same thing.
Some people may be impolite, aggresive, etc., because they're scared, having a bad day or something, and the it's very much fine to respond by trying to show them some love. They will really appreciate it.
Others use such behavior as a power play, and these types of folks won't respond to positive stimulus like a "sane" person would - in my experience, it'll only make them see you as an "easy mark". So the most practical approach is, I believe, the "you are beneath me" approach. They may fume and try to "show you your place" in response, but sooner or later they will respond by accepting the fact that you are the dominant side in the interaction - and either try to avoid you, or try to suck up (I'm not kidding, it's pretty disgusting when it happens ). It's how many people seem to be wired. It's typical "social climber" type of stuff: crap all over those who you perceive as having less power, and suck up to those who you perceive as having more power. In my line of work, people often become indoctrinated to act like this.
"A man who is doing his True Will has the inertia of the Universe to assist him." - A. Crowley