(09-20-2018, 03:56 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote: [ -> ] (09-20-2018, 03:36 AM)Fluffy Wrote: [ -> ]In my opinion, you only attract "fearful" situations when you are putting out fearful vibes. In other words if you are coming from a happy, healthy, positive place dominantly you wont actually attract these bad feeling situations to begin with.
You are what you put out. If you do attract these kinds of women that are not so good feeling then there must be something about you that is attracting them in the first place. Fear would do it, but also worrying about these things consistently or remembering past events and pushing against it happening again. It could also be not necessarily related to women but just a similar unwanted, negative bad feelings that bring more of that shit to you.
I think it is much more healthy and powerful to take responsibility for whatever you attract to you, as something that you have going on inside yourself.
Like attracts like, birds of a feather flock together.
As long as you know what you are putting out, you wont have to worry about attracting crazy chicks and what not because you wont even be a match anyway.
Crazy chicks that would cry rape and all this negative BS are on a much lower vibrational wave length and you would only attract that situation, if you was a match to that.
Externally nothing happens randomly, it all comes from within you.
There is nothing to fear, when you understand that the outside is a reflection of your inside. As you hold the power, as you are aware of what you have going on and you can change it as you are in control of yourself. Instead of thinking you are out of control and these random situations can happen at anytime and it has nothing to do with you and you are worried about it happening.
Your vibe attracts your tribe.
For the sake of the subliminal, yes I agree, lets see what it can do first without adding more limiters.
This as well. In sales I call it “indulging the customer”. Whatever you allow will happen. My cousin once told me of a customer whose door he had knocked on that took a long time to close because the guy was a talker. I was working for a separate company at the time so we gave each other tips on where to knock. Anyhow, he told me I might want to skip it because the guy wasted a lot of time.
Well when I went there I had a strong “don’t waste my time” vibe and signed the dude up without any small talk. I simply wasn’t going to allow it. Same customer, 2 completely different results.
Also, having knocked on hundreds of doors and getting better with people I can honestly say you absolutely can change the reactions you get from people as I’ve gotten better ones over time since when I first started.
So yes, take responsibility and don’t live in fear. True.
I have had the exact same results when teaching kids, whether they were 7 or 17. In my first months, I moaned to myself, feeling like a victim of whatever mood was dominant in each class (I was a substitute teacher, so I'd change classes each day). 2 years in, being tired of allowing them all the control (my thinking), I began to experiment with different approaches, introductions, and even personas. It was surprising, to say the least.
If I came in without deception, it encouraged the same attitudes from them.
If I came in happy, they would find reasons quickly to join me.
If I wanted to be solitary (even though I was with them), they picked it up and would respond in like.
If I was grumpy, they'd pick it up and begin little dramas with each other.
They'd often just mirror me directly. It was amazing, as it clearly gave me back control over the entire class. People will respond/react to whatever is introduced to them. And I saw that whatever mood I brought in was the standard for them.
So, what Sarge said is true. Whatever I bring into the relationship, they often mirror.
I'm seeing the exact same thing in my work relationships presently. Going in tomorrow, I'm now thinking "what would I like to create?" Hmmm. Even grumpy bosses, like mine, will adjust themselves when a person in a good mood walks in.
It gives back all the power, all the control. Waiters, customer service people, salesmen can all do this. That's what Sarge has found in his sales travels.