(03-29-2016, 07:32 PM)maxx55 Wrote: [ -> ]Shannon, I'm curious. What do you believe are the right situations to have desire and the right ones to let go of it?
I've had experiences where I do want to achieve something and I achieve it. But I've also had those experiences where I want to achieve something and it straight up didn't work. The thing that made it feel really bad at those times were that everyone else around me seemed to have success in it no problem or had achieved what I wanted. Those times it didn't work in the past were things that were major for me like building a business to be financially free and do what I want and having the plethora of women I wanted in my life.
It definitely seems the place I'm headed now is much better than the place I've been before
Desire is only useful as a director of attention and interst, and as a motivator, without becoming all-consuming.
I desire to become wealthy. That desire is my director, it gives my mind a direction, a goal. From that, it creates a cascade effect that results in motivation to act in the ways that result in achieving the goal.
But if becoming a millionaire was an all consuming desire, and I could not see or do anything else, it might still work for me to achieve, or it might end up causing me to do one of two other things that could destroy my success. The first being that the focus is so great that I delude my conscious awareness into believing that I am focused on the goal when in reality I am subconsciously focusing my conscious mind on the goal, so much and so narrowly that I effectively self sabotage and cannot actually achieve it - which is what Julien was talking about. The second escapes me now that I have finished describing the first, so perhaps at some other time I'll remember.
Focus and desire can be used like anything else to achieve or prevent. It requires the right balance.
The key to all success is not desire, but
focused and
balanced desire that is
consistent and
persistent, which is
acted on in the right ways. In other words, you can desire all you like, but if you never act on that desire, then you're effectively mentally masturbating. And if when you act on your desire you fail, and then you give up, you are again effectively mentally masturbating.
Failure is a natural, common sense consequence of not being all knowing and all powerful. But failure only exists when and if you don't keep trying to succeed. Learn from your setbacks, mistakes, and failures, and you can learn enough to succeed. But to get to that point, you must maintain desire to achieve the goal, and balance that desire with focus and determination, and then apply action, and also perseverance.
I get the impression that what Julien was talking about was primarily these guys who self sabotage by focusing entirely on desire, without applying any of the other factors.