(10-04-2016, 09:09 PM)ffaux Wrote: [ -> ] (09-29-2016, 03:37 PM)ffaux Wrote: [ -> ] (09-29-2016, 12:24 PM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ]Most women are not looking past their own nose when it comes to really valuing any particular man, and why should they, when they have armies of Betas AND PUAs trying to drown her in attention all day every day?
So how the hell do you get a woman to value/respect you?
Shannon, I don't feel like you answered this question in this reply. Please correct me if I'm wrong.
How do you get a woman to value and respect you.
Well... the first thing you have to remember is that each woman is a unique and special snowflake, and no two are exactly alike. That means that no matter what you do, you will never get all of them to respect or value you. Just not gonna happen.
That said... you now have those females who are suitable to consider an those who are not. If we disregard those who are not, then those who are will come to respect and value you based on their particular level of awareness, and what they believe and have been taught is valuable and important in a man. There is also her genetic code to consider, which has in it hard wired certain things that she will nearly always value - but still not always.
The things women value in men genetically are twofold: That he is either a leader (Alpha) or a provider (Beta). Both types have their uses to a woman, and both types will be appreciated, but in very different ways and for very different reasons. Alphas get respect and admiration, and usually get red carpet treatment when it comes to sexual access, but they're not going to let her control them. This is ironically why she values them so much, and what drives her the most crazy about them.
Betas do not get respect, but they are still valued because they can be used for nesting and providence - Betas will trade food and shelter for sex.
Beyond her genes, a woman values and respects a man who embodies those things she has been taught should be responded to with those things. If she has been taught that "a good man always treats a lady like a lady", she will value that from a man, and consciously at least, may also respect him for it. If she has been taught that "a good man always takes care of his female", then she will (probably) respect men who take care of their females in the ways she was taught that they do. Since each woman is different, this will differ from woman to woman. It is easy to know what a woman values by her religious beliefs, political beliefs, etc.
All women everywhere value above everything else the one thing that they are always seeking. That thing is...
SECURITY.
And if you can provide her with the security she is seeking, in the way she is seeking it... she
may value and
possibly respect you. This, however, is likely to require that you constantly have that security being threatened, because otherwise human nature says she will become lazy and complacent and believe she is entitled to it. At that point, you lose value and respect.
So simply put, women will usually value what and who they cannot or do not have and respect who they cannot control.
To be valued and respected by women:
1.
Never allow any woman to "own" you. If there must be ownership, then he owns her, and not the other way around. If not, then they can potentially be equals in this regard - but that almost never works because she will subconsciously and genetically always be giving him shit tests, which are subtle attempts to own and control him. The moment she does, all sexual attraction is gone and respect and value drops to somewhere around absolute zero.
2.
Never (outside of the required by law aspect, such as for a female judge, etc.) allow any woman to control you. Same deal.
