(10-09-2016, 04:15 PM)Frosted Wrote: [ -> ]You say pussy is a distraction but all the guys on here are like "do it, don't be a bitch, don't make excuses". AM is making me care less about women but then I get the pressure like I have to approach when I don't want to and then I just feel like I'll be judged by the guys on here for not taking action when I don't want to and they'll be like "it's not that you don't want to you're just being a bitch/making excuses". Easy to say not to care what they think, but it's still there.
When you are trying to focus inwardly, sex and women (outward focii) are a distraction. You cab focus inwardly and grow inwardly, or you can focus outwardly.
Why does it matter what anyone else wants? Do you think I give a flying rat's ass what anyone else wants me to do when it comes to me approaching or not approaching a woman? Why do you suppose that is? It's because I am my own leader, and I supply myself with my permission and validation. So the only reasons I do not approach a woman I do not approach are:
1. I'm not interested, or
2. I choose to respect the fact that she is involved.
Why does it matter if someone else wants you to go approach? Who cares! You are your own man, and you make your own decisions and do your own thing. Those who disagree can go do something else.
And if/when they start slinging around names like bitch and pussy for the man who does his own thing, they're just trying to test you. If you really have self mastery, you'll ignore them, laugh at them or do something other than care about what they say. When people attack me for not doing what they want me to do, I don't comply. I generally ignore them, or if they push hard enough, I tell them that I do my own decision making and they can go do something else. (Very toned down version of what I would say, btw.
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It doesn't matter hat they want. It matters what you want. You do your thing, and they can deal or wheel.
Quote:I'll elaborate on my requests. You told Ffaux that external disapproval destruction is not in AM6 so I was just throwing in that I wanted it in AM7. My personality type has problems with dealing with disapproval and also of over sensitivity (like a feeling like people are insulting my identity/values,it's cause of the infp personality, and infps are notourious for interpreting something as insulting when it was not meant to be), so even though I'm becoming more alpha it's like I have an achiles heal so to speak and if people find out about it they can keep pressing the button.
AM6 has something in it for dealing with external disapproval. I didn't understand what he was asking then.
You don't have an Achille's heel. You just have to finish becoming.
Quote:Oh, and please could you add something in to better deal with confrontations. My personality type shuts down in confrontation.
You're asking for improved clearing and healing, which is planned.
Quote:Also something to make it so you don't care about other guys AMOGing you cause that gets annoying real fast I just want to do my thing and all these guys are coming in like I challenged them or some shit.
As a self directed man, you're going to deal with insecure wanna-bes. You're also going to have to learn to deal with them and put them in their place, or make the decision to ignore them. It's going to depend on the specifics of the situation, but well chosen words are always a very good way of dealing with it.
