Quote:Ironic though, to not feel so intent on women, you need to have abundance. But, to have abundance, you need to have choice and power with women.
To have abundance, you must think in ways that naturally result in abundance. To have choice and power with women, you must think in the ways that result in choice and power with women.
The sad truth is, who cares the least, has the most power. This is true because a man who has access to all the females he can handle and then some, does not want or need any one of them anymore. The result? He no longer cares about getting any one woman, or bedding her. He has other sure bet options, and he doesn't need any woman because there will always be others who will provide for his wants and needs.
Until you understand and internalize this fully, you will remain trapped in the prison your beliefs create for you. The prison you intentionally create for yourself as a form of defense against the very women you want to have sex and relationships with.
Your thinking right now is based on the horrible experience you had. It is based in fear and insecurity and seeking safety from repeating that experience at any and all costs. And as long as that is your primary goal, you will remain in your current self created prison cell.
But the moment you stop basing your thinking, actions, choices and beliefs on that experience and stop trying to protect yourself against all women for the one bad apple in a thousand or ten thousand, you will find that your whole world changes, and so does your experience of it.
The moment you realize that you are more likely to die by having someone drive into your house and kill you, or be struck by lightning, or win the lotto two or three times in a row, than have that experience repeat itself, and you stop expecting all women to treat you that way, seeing them all as a threat... you will stop attracting the women who give you reason to think that way.
The moment you want sex or romance more than you fear women or want safety from them, you will have sex and romance.
The moment you realize that there are BILLIONS of women, and only a very small portion of the in the world would treat you like that girl did, and you adjust your responses for that fact... you will have abundance with women.
But you keep insisting that it has to be done your way, which is bass ackwards from how it has to be done. You want to hide in a self created prison cell and be 100% safe, but also have everything that requires a certain degree of risk to attain.
Have I had goo experiences with women? Of all the women I have dated or had sex with, I think only one has actually been faithful to me. But you know what? I only found her when I stopped thinking in the ways that were attracting the women who treated me that way. When I stopped looking for a woman to take care of me, be my mommy, like mommy taught me to do because she loved holding me when I was 4 years old and never taught me how to be an adult, never mind a man. I had to teach myself those things when she died.
The point is... until *I changed me*, I got what my beliefs attuned me to. When I changed my beliefs from (I am helpless without mom, I need mom to take care of me, I don't know how to take care of myself,
I need my girlfriend to be my mom) to (I deserve better than this treatment, I refuse to accept it, I would rather be alone than accept it, I can and will take care of myself), I stopped being attuned to the reality in which I attracted and chose women who would take advantage of me that way, and I tuned myself to a reality in which I now have a woman who I can trust, who will do whatever it takes to get me to keep her and make me happy with her, who accepts me as I am and makes no demands on me, genuinely loves me, understands me and communicates in the same ways I do, and is constantly telling me that either she's going to have sex with me, or she's going to have sex with me again right after we finish.
I changed my beliefs because I understood what I was doing wrong. When I did that I no longer had to learn what I was doing wrong, and so I no longer need to attract or choose the women who would do the things that would force me to learn that lesson. I instantly stopped attracting them.
Likewise, the moment you stop focusing on how dangerous it is to risk being with a woman (in any capacity, apparently) and start focusing on how good life is and how happy you can be with or without them, you will no longer need them OR be trying to push them away and defend yourself against them. And that will attune you to women who think like you do, and who are therefore seeking the same things you are - and who are safe to be with.
If you assume everyone is a crook, you're going to act like everyone is a crook, and you're naturally going to drive away those who aren't crooks (because they don't appreciate being treated like crooks) and attract those who are crooks, because they're crooks and they expect to be treated like one.
Likewise the same is true with everything else. What you believe, creates your tuning in reality and what you are attuned to, you attract. What you resist, persists until you overcome that resistance. What you fear, you focus on, give energy and emotional passion to, and thereby CREATE IN YOUR LIFE.
YOU must change before the world around you does. You inside. You keep insisting that it.;s not real until the world outside you changes, but the truth is, that's just an excuse to not have to face your fears. If you did, that would be scary. So you keep insisting that things be done backwards because reasons, but those reasons are based in faulty logic and are backwards from what needs to happen before you will experience the changes you seek outside you.
YOU are what attunes you to the reality you experience outside yourself, because that reality is a direct reflection of what you are and what you believe to be true.
There is no escaping this. You change internally, and the rest follows. Until then... you have your convenient excuse to hide in your prison cell you created to keep the females out, and it will continue to do exactly that.
That is how reality works, and no amount of you wishing or willing it to be otherwise will change that. YOU must change internally to change the reality you experience externally. It is just a reflection of you.
