(03-10-2011, 05:15 PM)Ryan Wrote: [ -> ]Patty look into herbal cigarettes or electronic cigarettes if you want to quit 
From my experience and from what I've read, using substitutes will only keep you in the addictive mindset. The substitute will only work as a thoughtful reminder you of what you're now actually "missing", and when you miss something you make it more valuable. Also for example when you stop nail biting, you don't replace it with pulling out your hair right?
Patti, if you have a desire to stop smoking; get Allen Carr's Easy Way To Stop Smoking. It was a very helpful guide for me when I quit over a year ago (used to be a chain smoker for 11 years), it helps tremendously if you understand the mechanics behind smoking. Also smoking (or plain addiction) is a very ego based (instant gratification, very childish excuses to keep on smoking, lot of emotional bs, victim mentality and a lot of pattern matching revolving around smoking), know that there was a time that your body was complete, and didn't needed nicotine to make itself feel good, more confident or relaxed. Your body is more than capable of just doing that.
Also when you quit know that each withdrawal symptom doesn't last longer than 3 minutes (anything longer is your own doing), just keep your mind on something else during that time. In the end you'll be only dealing with withdrawal for about 20-40 min. a day. Which isn't forever as the addiction wants to make you believe. Day 4 has the most withdrawal symptoms, after that it starts to decline, and in 3 weeks you will be free of 99% nicotine in your body. And if you're still "hungering" for nicotine afterwards, then it's all in your head.
Also make it a
decision to stop smoking, and do this only for you (this both works on empowering and taking control over yourself). What was sort of a stepping stone and what worked for me was using the mindset of 'I'm able to smoke, but I choose not to'. When you deny yourself something, makes it more valuable, and it's a sure way to start all over again. What is also pretty important is to take it day by day, instead of thinking of just quitting forever.
If you need any help with this, feel free to PM me.
Well I gotta say they worked for me. Quitting was hard, mostly when I was in social situations where I needed them most. So I used herbal cigarettes which do not contain any nicotine and that helped me so much, I no longer crave cigarettes at all, I don't even need herbal cigarettes anymore.
Ryan
Ryan, I'm glad to see that it successfully helped you on quitting smoking, and I know it was hard for you. It's just that I noticed that if you don't deal with an addictive mindset is that your ego will tend to find other external (negative) substitutes to reward itself with (subconsciously), which ultimately can make you more susceptible to other addictions or eventually have you getting back to smoking because you still feel you have a need for external rewards (the ones that don't require a good reason or long term thinking/planning to obtain them, instant gratification).
Is it possible that after quitting you manifested a few new (bad) habits or continued on returning to some old ones? I don't want to be too intrusive but for example did you happen to gain more weight after you quit smoking, or noticed that you're spending more money on stuff (that you don't really need)?
Jay and Ryan, I moved my reply to this to my page as not to ambush Shannons. So please, grab your coffee and stop over for a read. But know that it's quite long and you may want to avoid the whole thing all together! Thanks!
(03-09-2011, 02:07 PM)Litisthebest Wrote: [ -> ]I have been using AM11 and Happiness and Joy (4th Gen). I noticed that the H and J takes off some of resistance/anger I get from AM11. I am just wondering if these two are ok to use together?
If you're not using more than two at a time, you're still technically following the rules. Using Happiness and Joy will take some of the edge off, but that edge is part of getting where you are going. Going from beta to alpha you need to get upset enough to stop letting people walk on you, take advantage of you, etc. and that's why I haven't completely removed what some are calling the "jerk syndrome". It's not being a jerk to assert yourself and define your new boundaries. You have to step into new shoes, and learn how to do that. Being happy and full of joy will negate that, and thus likely neuter your alpha training. if you use H&J before stage 3.
If you're referring to a different thing than I am, I'd have to understand better what you are referring to.
Shannon I was just curious where did you come up with the idea to utilize ultrasonic subliminals? At first I didn't understand how they could possibly work, but I've been doing a little research and what I have found has fascinated me.
"The upper frequency limit in humans (approximately 20 kHz) is due to limitations of the middle ear, which acts as a low-pass filter. Ultrasonic hearing can occur if ultrasound is fed directly into the skull bone and reaches the cochlea through bone conduction without passing through the middle ear."
Now it says "fed directly into the skull bone" which would require a device of some sort that is in contact with the skull. But it seems like these ultrasonic subliminals are still able to vibrate the inner ear through the air. Is the principle still the same, bone is being vibrated within the ear to hear the messages? This really is amazing how we can decipher these messages even at ultrasonic frequency.
(03-11-2011, 06:45 PM)mat422 Wrote: [ -> ]Shannon I was just curious where did you come up with the idea to utilize ultrasonic subliminals? At first I didn't understand how they could possibly work, but I've been doing a little research and what I have found has fascinated me.
"The upper frequency limit in humans (approximately 20 kHz) is due to limitations of the middle ear, which acts as a low-pass filter. Ultrasonic hearing can occur if ultrasound is fed directly into the skull bone and reaches the cochlea through bone conduction without passing through the middle ear."
Now it says "fed directly into the skull bone" which would require a device of some sort that is in contact with the skull. But it seems like these ultrasonic subliminals are still able to vibrate the inner ear through the air. Is the principle still the same, bone is being vibrated within the ear to hear the messages? This really is amazing how we can decipher these messages even at ultrasonic frequency.
Great question.
I don't think that there is enough energy in the audio at normal levels to become conductive through bone, if it is delivered via the air. That it works through physical contact is not surprising, but the amount of energy involved in doing the same thing through the air would seem to make that explanation impossible.
How ultrasonics work, I have only ever found one theory to explain adequately, and even it has problems. But... the idea is that the hairs in the inner ear, which deal with our sense of balance, are affected by the ultrasonic audio and the resulting nerve impulses are translated by the brain into comprehended audio stimulus.
The idea of an ultrasonic "subliminal" is not new and not original to me. It is similar to the technology that was used by the military and other producers, including the original inventor of the technology, for similar purposes. I just pair it with more effective scripting methods and have better center frequencies. I got the idea when I was doing research into how to make these programs in the early 2000's, before I had the technology to do much of what I can do now.
But really, I am not sure anyone really understands how and why ultrasonics work. I have had some very highly educated people dispute the theory I gave above, with very good reasons. All I can say with certainty is this: the method does work, and there is apparently no clear understanding of how and why.
I see, quite a mystery. But I can't argue with the results so I'm not complaining lol. It still amazes me that it works. It really makes me wonder what else our bodies are being subjected to throughout the day.
(03-11-2011, 09:37 PM)mat422 Wrote: [ -> ]I see, quite a mystery. But I can't argue with the results so I'm not complaining lol. It still amazes me that it works. It really makes me wonder what else our bodies are being subjected to throughout the day.
Precisely why I approached the concept of ultrasonic subliminals with so much skepticism until I saw proof with my own eyes that it worked on me.
I have the feeling that we subject ourselves to a lot of subtle energies throughout the day that might have more of an influence on us than we realize.
Shannon,have you started Sex Magnet yet?When do you think it will
be ready?
Quote:If you're not using more than two at a time, you're still technically following the rules. Using Happiness And Joy will take some of the edge off, but that edge is part of getting where you are going. Going from beta to alpha you need to get upset enough to stop letting people walk on you, take advantage of you, etc. and that's why I haven't completely removed what some are calling the "jerk syndrome". It's not being a jerk to assert yourself and define your new boundaries. You have to step into new shoes, and learn how to do that. Being happy and full of joy will negate that, and thus likely neuter your alpha training. if you use H&J before stage 3.
If you're referring to a different thing than I am, I'd have to understand better what you are referring to.
Yep. After reading it I agree totally and it is something i've been experiencing and feeling more powerful for it. I'm happy I have finally been able to tell some idiots who I don't want to listen to and have them abuse me what I think. I know it will smooth out and it's only been to people that have been pushing it and i've always wanted to say something to.
I will write more in my journal about it.
(03-13-2011, 07:03 AM)Roy Wrote: [ -> ]Shannon,have you started Sex Magnet yet?When do you think it will
be ready?
I have been working on Sex Magnet, just haven't been talking about it.
Tonight, in fact, I expect to make some rather significant headway. There's a lot of work left to do on the set, but it has been in the works for about five days now. Not always getting a whole lot accomplished on it because of other things pulling me away, but I am working on it.
I expect it to be finished within another 2 to 3 weeks. But who knows, since I don't see a whole lot of distractions this week, it might be done faster.
(03-13-2011, 08:25 AM)benjamin Wrote: [ -> ]Quote:If you're not using more than two at a time, you're still technically following the rules. Using Happiness And Joy will take some of the edge off, but that edge is part of getting where you are going. Going from beta to alpha you need to get upset enough to stop letting people walk on you, take advantage of you, etc. and that's why I haven't completely removed what some are calling the "jerk syndrome". It's not being a jerk to assert yourself and define your new boundaries. You have to step into new shoes, and learn how to do that. Being happy and full of joy will negate that, and thus likely neuter your alpha training. if you use H&J before stage 3.
If you're referring to a different thing than I am, I'd have to understand better what you are referring to.
Yep. After reading it I agree totally and it is something i've been experiencing and feeling more powerful for it. I'm happy I have finally been able to tell some idiots who I don't want to listen to and have them abuse me what I think. I know it will smooth out and it's only been to people that have been pushing it and i've always wanted to say something to.
I will write more in my journal about it.
I am actually quite fond of the "Jerk Syndrome." This has made my life much more better. For example: I was trying to watch TV, and my friend comes in blabbing up a storm (I did not even acknowledge their presence lol). I told her to either be quiet and watch it with me or leave and I'll talk to her later. I enjoy and participate in what I wish without any unwanted distractions. You can look at this any way you want. Pick the more empowering option and go on with life is my suggestion.
I want Sex Magnet pretty bad right now lol. I wish I could buy it the day it comes out and have the Groundhogs Day effect. That way I could finish Alpha Male 2011 and Sex Magnet in one "true" day
Shannon, any talk
on what you have decided/were able to actually
include in sex magnet from the discussion thread?