(04-18-2017, 05:09 PM)Duke.Togo Wrote: [ -> ] (04-18-2017, 04:43 PM)Rayhon Wrote: [ -> ] (04-18-2017, 06:45 AM)RTBoss Wrote: [ -> ]Why didn't you ask her in person?
Because I stopped working there. The last thing I did when I saw her was hug her firmly and kiss her on the cheek and said "lets chill sometime"
then I left.
At this point I had to ask her out in FB because I don't work there anymore.
I was pretty devastated yesterday at the idea of never seeing her again.
She responded to me asking her out by saying "Hey dude, i"m seeing someone else remember 
That sounds like a date"
The rest of the conversation is irrelevant because I won't ever see her again even though my heart desires to see her.
I'm going to be the asshole here and just tell you straight - you're blown when it comes to her. I can tell from your earlier posts that you were too emotionally invested, and from her reply and the way she used the term dude, she knew you were also.
Women pick up on shit like that. It may have actually turned out very differently if she knew you didn't like her. But, right now, for whatever reason, her boyfriend is a higher value proposition than you are.
Now this next bit could be relevant only to women from NYC, but, maybe not. From all of my experiences with women, I have come to realize that they use a weighted scale method, where they will weigh out the value of an experience against any so called repercussions. If the experience feels good enough, they'll bite on it.
It's like going shopping with a chick. They'll look around over and over again, and either they'll damn the consequences and buy something because they've been triggered to, or they'll be indecisive the whole time. The times they buy, they may have remorse later on and return the merchandise. Sometimes they'll go back and forth on it for a while.
The point is, women shop men like they do their hand bags. And generally speaking, the higher of value some thing is, the more a woman wants it. But if it's equal to what she already has, she'll window shop it, but she won't bite.
She window shopped you, and she didn't bite. You can't wear your heart on your sleeve, especially when a girl has someone else in her life.
Learn from this experience and move on. There's always another girl. There will always be the next girl. Don't ever forget that.
I agree 100 percent with everything you said. And I appreciate the response.
I know I won't get with her anymore.. But what about the next chick?
What can I do the next time around? and in the mean time to make myself higher value.
Also how do I show interest without playing games and PRETENDING TO NOT CARE.
Because you're right girls want they can't have. It's what I hate about them
Please guys i'm in a serious hole right now and I'm not as crushed as I was 3 years ago when this happened. Not even close.
But I'm genuinely upset that I finally meet someone I really like after 2 1/2 years of living life and I FUCK THINGS UP.
Like I always have when I really like someone.
I don't want to live life this to be honest.
Please, anyone who's listening to this. Inspire me, motivative me, give me advice. ANYTHING to help me come back stronger then ever.
Why do women not like me when I care about them, and when I give no fucks about them, THEY ASK ME OUT and THEY LIKE ME.
is this is the case with all women or am I extremely unlucky.
Please guys help me.
How can I become the type of man women love. Tell me what should I be doing to become a superior man.
I Deserve love, and women and I will fight to get it. I WILL NEVER quit until I have the level of abundance I desire.
It's all or nothing for me. Either I become very happy in life or rather not live.
Rayhon, first things first, you didn't f*ck anything up. You genuinely liked someone, who was unfortunately unavailable. It happens. Congratulations, you're a human being. You know this now.
Onto something a bit more worrisome - your last line on your post. Either you become happy in life or or rather not live.
Let me put something in perspective for you. You only get one shot at this. There is no reboot, there is no three lives, this ain't a video game. If you carry on with that attitude, you will invariably find yourself unhappy at some point in your life, and you will invariably do something stupid.
If you want to be a higher value man, you need to first understand for yourself who you are and what makes you happy. In my opinion, being a higher value man is being the best version of yourself. And you'll never be the best version of yourself, so you continuously strive to be better, because you should realize that there is no ceiling to your own greatness. Don't settle. Ever.
Women, love, happiness, success, all that shits going to come and go in your life.
I'll share something with you. There is only one man that I consider striving to be like.
The guy from the Dos Equis commercial - the most interesting man in the world.
Sounds funny, right? It's true though. My main purpose in life isn't to be happy, or successful, or get laid. My goal in life is to have lived an interesting life and conquered whatever challenges are thrown at me. To do my best at anything and never back down, especially in the face of danger.
If you want to be a higher value man, be a better man today than you were yesterday, be a better man tomorrow than you were today. Always be better.
If you live your life with that type of intention, I can guarantee you, you will have everything you want in abundance.
Always leave them wanting more Kid...
(04-18-2017, 07:54 PM)Duke.Togo Wrote: [ -> ]Rayhon, first things first, you didn't f*ck anything up. You genuinely liked someone, who was unfortunately unavailable. It happens. Congratulations, you're a human being. You know this now.
Onto something a bit more worrisome - your last line on your post. Either you become happy in life or or rather not live.
Let me put something in perspective for you. You only get one shot at this. There is no reboot, there is no three lives, this ain't a video game. If you carry on with that attitude, you will invariably find yourself unhappy at some point in your life, and you will invariably do something stupid.
If you want to be a higher value man, you need to first understand for yourself who you are and what makes you happy. In my opinion, being a higher value man is being the best version of yourself. And you'll never be the best version of yourself, so you continuously strive to be better, because you should realize that there is no ceiling to your own greatness. Don't settle. Ever.
Women, love, happiness, success, all that shits going to come and go in your life.
I'll share something with you. There is only one man that I consider striving to be like.
The guy from the Dos Equis commercial - the most interesting man in the world.
Sounds funny, right? It's true though. My main purpose in life isn't to be happy, or successful, or get laid. My goal in life is to have lived an interesting life and conquered whatever challenges are thrown at me. To do my best at anything and never back down, especially in the face of danger.
If you want to be a higher value man, be a better man today than you were yesterday, be a better man tomorrow than you were today. Always be better.
If you live your life with that type of intention, I can guarantee you, you will have everything you want in abundance.
Always leave them wanting more Kid...
I don't think anyone of could have said anything better to me than what you wrote. Thanks man I needed that. Appreciate it.
Your post cheered me up too allot surprisingly. Thanks
I'm feeling allot better then last two days. IDK what it is about subliminals but more so WM/SM/AM/DMSI but when I get very depressed about a women. The sadness goes away SO MUCH FASTER.
In the past it would take me months to 2 years depending how much I liked the person.
It's been two days and I feel 10x stronger and then yesterday.
I still don't feel like I won, or happy with the result but I feel like just time to improve upon myself for the next chick.
Start reading again and working out harder and saving money.
Court is july 6. I won't be going to jail but I may have curfew after that still.
Social life and banging chicks I guarantee is going to go threw the roof when I'm off curfew.
I was big into the rave and party scene 3 years ago and have lots of connections and groups I haven't seen in a while.
Once I'm free I will go hard. or maybe i won't. But that's what I feel like I want to do at this very moment. Just bang and meet allot of chicks.
I"m asking one of my friends to come with me while i day game chicks. I had major successs day game back in the day evne though i was dead nervous the first few approaches.
I feel like now my success rate will be higher. Direct game makes them instantly like you. I had instant numbers many times.
I FEEL LIKE A PUSSY FOR NOT DOING IT WHEN ITS A VIABLE OPTION.
to be fair though am v6 killed any desire I had to do that. I literally stopped caring about it for the longest time.
(04-18-2017, 05:09 PM)Duke.Togo Wrote: [ -> ]Now this next bit could be relevant only to women from NYC, but, maybe not. From all of my experiences with women, I have come to realize that they use a weighted scale method, where they will weigh out the value of an experience against any so called repercussions. If the experience feels good enough, they'll bite on it.
Definitely truth in NYC in my experience; I as well don't know how relevant it is outside of here.
(04-19-2017, 04:53 PM)apollolux Wrote: [ -> ] (04-18-2017, 05:09 PM)Duke.Togo Wrote: [ -> ]Now this next bit could be relevant only to women from NYC, but, maybe not. From all of my experiences with women, I have come to realize that they use a weighted scale method, where they will weigh out the value of an experience against any so called repercussions. If the experience feels good enough, they'll bite on it.
Definitely truth in NYC in my experience; I as well don't know how relevant it is outside of here.
NYC has a similar vibe to Vancouver. Depends on the girl but I think most women are like this.
It's not that complex. Whatever is higher value in terms of money, status, protection, beauty and what not is going to be crowned the boyfriend, fuck buddy or husband (depending on the mans choice)
I feel better today then I did yesterday, and yesterday I felt better then I did the day before too.
Thank you DMSI for healing me months faster then I typically heal.
All that is in my mind now is how to improve myself and become a better man.
I called my buddy to go day game tomorrow but he's busy till tuesday but I'm going to start approaching like crazy.
the best way to get over someone is to find someone new.
Not only that but it will make her jealous muahahahahahha (serious but kidding)
so maybe in the future I will get another shot with her.
But yeah I decided FUCK IT. LETS APPROACh and HUNT DOWN THESE WOMEN.
direct game is so easy if you can control your emotions and say the rigth things when you meet these chicks on the street.
I used to say things like "I thought you were adorable and I wanted to come say hi, Hi I'm Rayhon".. And it was an instant blush and easy conversation before I got her number.
You can also turn it into easy instant dates if you know what your doing.
My desire for daygame was gone for so long but now its back stronger then ever without the extreme needyness I had in the past.
I rarely meet beautiful women RANDOMLY. So going out and chasing them down myself is the best way to go.
I remember I was with one of my female friends 3 years ago and some guy came and chatted her up outside a liquor store. They ended up dating for 3 years and living together.
Daygame and approaching is the way to go. Anything else is a headache imo.
Day 51
I noticed i'm more likely to go out with friends when they invite me to go out.
I noticed I'm more go with the flow in social settings and less stress.
Not thinking about or feeling upset about Vegan Brunette 3 who had the boyfriend and isn't interested in me anymore.
I think about her but only for like a minute or two a day. and not with feelings of strong emotions. More so just a little bit of sentimentalness but no depression or sadness.
Feeling hopeful for the future but stressed out for other reasons unrelated to females.
Acccidently listened to 3-4 loops yesterday and 6-8 loops tonight.
FUK I really need to get a better alarm method.
Day 55
I noticed me thinking of the chicks from my work, specifically vegan brunette 3, and I keep thinking that these women will come back around in the future when they how awesome I am through facebook.
This is not a big deal, but it's a subtle effect of how subliminals and DMSI change your way of thinking.
I'm being very optimistic and hopeful and I actually believe it.
In the past few years ago, I would still be depressed, borderline crying because of me and this women not working out.
I would not be able to have such a positive mentality/outlook on the future and present moment.
This postive outlook is one of the strongest feelings dmsi has given me.
Deep down I feel like there is no rush and even though she doesn't want to see me now, doesn't mean down the road it's not possible or she wouldn't want too.
I also have allot of thoughts about getting my life together and improving myself in every aspect. I'm loving DMSI so far even though I haven't had sexual experiences because of it.
On a side note: Getting new car in 2 weeks, and when I get the money, a new wardrobe.
Didn't use DMSI the last two nights, because of me running too many loops this week I figured I'd give my mind some time off to let it go through the scripts without more of the same scripting being added on.
I'm going to continue using DMSI version A healing again today. So I'm still on Day 55.
I have had dreams about me being with women the last 4 days.
I think I dream about women every night now but I can't remember dreams every night so it's hard to say. but every night that I remember dreams its about a women.
Lately it's been about the women from my work.
Last night one of them was kissing me on the cheek allot and I was basically banging one of them.
Just got a new Car. 2015 Fiat 500 Black. 44 000 km
Mint car. Super sexy. Not the most masculine car but still sexy imo.
Also. Luck Magnet is in Dmsi now right?
I STRONGLY feel like it is and that is working very powerfully now.
Allot of very fortunate and lucky thingds have happened lately.
One of them being my parents decided to sell there condo and buy me an apartment for myself, my sister one for herself, and my parents one for them selves. All paying the down payment and each of us paying the mortage payments as rent.
on a side note, I saw a chick beside me at the car dealership with her boyfriend, look at me twice intentionally and obviously.
Had to make a clear effort to look my way.
was definitely checking me out a bit.
internally I'm going through allot right now.
I have a fractured hand I'm waiting for it to get better and start lifting hard again.
I don't have oneitis, but I really really miss and want to be with Brunette 3 from my work.
A week or two ago she liked a picture of my new car that I posted on Facebook.
This tells me she's at least a little interested.
VERY little at least, the last thing I did was ask her out and got rejected again because she said she's "Hey i'm seeing someone remember, that sounds like a date
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But a week or so after that she liked my photo of my new car so that tells me its not comletely over. (i doubt she would like ANY photo of mine if she wasn't at least slightly interested)
That being said, I haven't talked to her since the rejection and I don't plan on talking to her until at least a few months.
I'm going to get my body back to 175lbs (my max weight I ever was) I'm 153 right now. (5 foot 6 or 7)
I'm going to get a new wardrobe, meet other women potentially and focus on myself.
When I do these things and better myself and elevate myself to her level. Then I have a much higher chance of getting with her.
And if not her, another version of her. There will always be a women that comes around that I really like (though it happens rarely for me)..
So i must always strive to be the best version of myself.
I have one women who I had a blowjob from 3 years ago msg me and we had a date planned, but I cancelled on her because I heard she bange 3 people I know and that turns me off.
She's messaging me atm but i'm ignoring her.
GUYS, WHAT IS YOUR NUMBER 1 self development videos and article to help inspire yourself to either go out and game women daytime, or gym, or other self development.
This video does the trick for me most of the time when I'm feeling demotivated and I remember to watch it. Hope it helps
