This online dating thing is a big headache. The date with the 34 year old got cancelled, the 28 year old didn't respond to my last and only text telling her if sat or sunday works better for her. I think she might be flaking.
And this beautiful 22 year old model vegan messaged me and she was interested and then i showed slight bit of interest and i get ignored.
It's like you cant show any interest at all to they get turned off. this is fucking wierd.
I'm not letting it get to me though, i realize its part of the game. I just dont know if i want to keep up this online dating thing. It's annoying as fuck.
I did have one chick who is out at camp though who seems very genuine and shes hot and she was very eager and excited to hang out when she gets back from camp. hopefully that works out. she said "For sure she will message me when shes back to hang out"
I'm going to keep up the online dating but switch up my style. gotta find the perfect balance of showing interest but not too much. or too little.
Yep.. sometimes it makes me want to abuse them for being retarded. Not that I do, but it pisses me off and sometimes I just want to say "what the fuck is the problem" or something.
Like one who was really responsive, sending long messages. Invited her out on the weekend but her uncle and niece were coming down, and even she suggested showing me a place that she mentioned that is cool if i'm interested. I said i'd like that and i'll show her some cool places too and gave her my number and said to send me hers. And that was 2 days ago and nothing.
So much dumb shit.
(09-10-2017, 09:20 PM)Benjamin Wrote: [ -> ]Yep.. sometimes it makes me want to abuse them for being retarded. Not that I do, but it pisses me off and sometimes I just want to say "what the **** is the problem" or something.
Like one who was really responsive, sending long messages. Invited her out on the weekend but her uncle and niece were coming down, and even she suggested showing me a place that she mentioned that is cool if i'm interested. I said i'd like that and i'll show her some cool places too and gave her my number and said to send me hers. And that was 2 days ago and nothing.
So much dumb shit.
Yeah it's really wierd. I still haven't understood why they get turned off when you show interest. Aren't they there to find a date???
lmao it's bizarre, women are strange creatures.
It's really annoying but I still think it's good to use online dating, because why not right? More opportunity for meeting women is better then less.
(09-10-2017, 09:25 PM)Raykon Wrote: [ -> ] (09-10-2017, 09:20 PM)Benjamin Wrote: [ -> ]Yep.. sometimes it makes me want to abuse them for being retarded. Not that I do, but it pisses me off and sometimes I just want to say "what the **** is the problem" or something.
Like one who was really responsive, sending long messages. Invited her out on the weekend but her uncle and niece were coming down, and even she suggested showing me a place that she mentioned that is cool if i'm interested. I said i'd like that and i'll show her some cool places too and gave her my number and said to send me hers. And that was 2 days ago and nothing.
So much dumb shit.
Yeah it's really wierd. I still haven't understood why they get turned off when you show interest. Aren't they there to find a date???
lmao it's bizarre, women are strange creatures.
It's really annoying but I still think it's good to use online dating, because why not right? More opportunity for meeting women is better then less.
Not all of them are looking for dates. Some are just there for validation. Others are just looking around with no real intent to date anyone. I've also heard that you have to be a real cut above to make it online dating, since women have such a huge pool to pick from.
(09-10-2017, 09:28 PM)Bookstacks DC737 Wrote: [ -> ] (09-10-2017, 09:25 PM)Raykon Wrote: [ -> ] (09-10-2017, 09:20 PM)Benjamin Wrote: [ -> ]Yep.. sometimes it makes me want to abuse them for being retarded. Not that I do, but it pisses me off and sometimes I just want to say "what the **** is the problem" or something.
Like one who was really responsive, sending long messages. Invited her out on the weekend but her uncle and niece were coming down, and even she suggested showing me a place that she mentioned that is cool if i'm interested. I said i'd like that and i'll show her some cool places too and gave her my number and said to send me hers. And that was 2 days ago and nothing.
So much dumb shit.
Yeah it's really wierd. I still haven't understood why they get turned off when you show interest. Aren't they there to find a date???
lmao it's bizarre, women are strange creatures.
It's really annoying but I still think it's good to use online dating, because why not right? More opportunity for meeting women is better then less.
Not all of them are looking for dates. Some are just there for validation. Others are just looking around with no real intent to date anyone. I've also heard that you have to be a real cut above to make it online dating, since women have such a huge pool to pick from.
I don't want to toot my own horn but I'm very sexy. Only thing I don't have is allot of height, but physically very beautiful looks wise and very muscular.
That's why I'm so confused. You would think they would be down. I wasn't even being needy I just showed SLIGHT interest.
Yeah online is weird. I've only gotten 1 date in years. Less than my offline efforts.
It's just too impersonal. I don't know how Blackdragon does it.
(09-10-2017, 09:43 PM)SargeMaximus Wrote: [ -> ]Yeah online is weird. I've only gotten 1 date in years. Less than my offline efforts.
It's just too impersonal. I don't know how Blackdragon does it.
I think they jump to conclusions too easily. You show a little interest in real life, is okay. but online everything is magnified, a little interest seems like allot in online.
That's my take on it so far.
Good news!!!!!!!, I messaged the 28 year old that I like the most out of the women I met in the online dating in text message.
saying "Do you still want to chill next weekend?"
she said "yes sorry I saw your message. ill let you know which day if you don't mind i may go to my parents in port moody."
I just responded "okay sounds good see you"
(less is better then more in texting) from my experience
our personalitys are very similar, I could tell from our conversation we had the other day, and by creeping her Facebook.
I think that's why she responded well too me. im a musician, her dads a musician, shes a musician, shes HUGE into nature and her Facebook wall and her online profile was identical to mine.
okay im happy she responded. I had a good feeling about her so when she didn't respond I felt confused.
she was very genuine too and she said shes new to online dating.
Quote:I don't want to toot my own horn but I'm very sexy. Only thing I don't have is allot of height, but physically very beautiful looks wise and very muscular.
That's the thing, I was talking to a mate about it. I'm in the best shape of my life, more so than most guys, muscular. And I get very few tinder matches and such (though I am in a small place).
And on oasisactive you can see the number of likes on photos. My photos get zero, but i've seen profiles where the women have 100s of likes.. and these are women that aren't just average, but downright fucking ugly.
Such a difference, and this is why the goal of DMSI of changing the dynamic is a big one and a difficult one.
Another weird thing is girls who have been on POF for years, i'm on and off it and several times the SAME girls have clicked 'meet me' on my profile, and i've messaged them and either no response or they act like the biggest fuckheads. Umm you fucking have clicked meet me like 3 times and you still do that shit.
So i've been on AM refresher stage listening to it 24/7 for the last two days and nights..
decided gotta stick with it because my chances of success with that 28 year old will be higher. Alphaness is more attractive imo then what DMSI does (for my personality at least since im really emotional naturally)
anyways, I had a few fucked up dreams last night.
1) I was in a big fight type situation and then I confronted some guy who did something bad to someone, i forget what he did, but someone came and punched him in the head for it and we all circled him but I told him that we will forgive him even though what he did is wrong because by forgiving him were showing humility and mercy and its a respectful thing to do and that he has to learn to not do it again. (something along those lines)
2) second dream was one of the most fucked up dreams I ever had, I was being sexually abused and drugged by three women, they had me on GHB or something and were abusing me physically and mentally and I managed to escape in a drunken daze and I remember messaging my friend in Toronto PLEASE HELP ME CALL 911, PLEASE THIS IS NOT A JOKE" I was fucked, I was in an elevator and my drunken/drugged state of mind (in the dream) decided I can hit the elevator help button and call 911 from that, I hit the button but nothing happened.
I forget what happened rest but the dream was fucked, basically I was a rape victim and was naked wandering around trying to get medical help and police to help me in fear that they would come back.
3) third dream, some guy was pretending to be from the company that my dad works at, and then I realized at the end of his speech that he was lying and I chased him down and beat him up because he was trying to get us to sign a bunch of money to him in a contract.
The rape/sexual abuse dream was important to experience even though it was sad, it shows the sad realitys of what goes on around the world (mainly for women) and the sexual abuse in other countrsy they experience.
I'm also getting a MEDUSA half sleeve tattoo next weekend and Medusa was a rape victim that's how she was cursed by the Godess of War Athena. She was raped by Poseidon the greek god and was no longer a virgin and was cursed and became Medusa because of it.
That's one of the many reasons I'm getting the tattoo, to symbolize my support for women who experience domestic abuse, sexual abuse and rape victims.
I think that's why that dream happened.
Anways, the dreams on AM are way more rowdy then DMSI. DMSI dreams were all about me making out with women or banging them. AM is like me in major confrontations and serious situations and handling it as best as I can.
Felt amazing today, felt more alpha and WAY happier then usual. I can feel refresher staging working 100 percent.
I should have trusted my intuition and started refresher stage many months ago when I felt I needed it.
I FELT AMAZING. and the reactions from women today was WAY stronger too. More stares, more intense smiles and women saying hi to me randomly.
had an amazing day today. Went to the dog park I haven't been to in 2 years and talked to two people I haven't seen in two years. This is the beginning of me going there again.
I also haven't been this comftorable at work and social in a long time.
AM > DMSI.
Shannon, I respect your advice and knowledge, but I don't know why but AM v6 effects me at a way more powerful way then DMSI has.
ONLY the older DMSI made me snipe that waitress SO HARD and powerful. I haven't sniped anyone that intensely and noticeably powerful ever since then. And that was a way older version of DMSI.
That Sniper was INTENSE, I haven't had that since.
However, am v6 makes me much more attactive to women and happy and at ease in social situations. Also more masculine.
You are wrong about DMSI being "way more powerful" and that AM doesn't come close.
Maybe for allot of people it's like that, but for me its not. Maybe the healing is stronger but overall AM is way more powerful for me.
That's just my take on it. it's only been 3 -4 day on Refresher and IM WAY more confident.
I went ot the strip club today to test this out and I was WAYYYYYYYY more at ease talking to the strippers.
not even close to be honest. DMSI seems like a waste of time in comparison considering 3 days of refresher made me feel better then I have in a long time.
I'm not trying to be offensive, i'm just being realistic in my feedback, DMSI isn't as good as you think. It's missing that one aspect that AM has.
Also today at the bank I looked at the sexy cashier and told her very confidently and masculinely "You have really pretty eyes"
On DMSI I would hesitate or have anxiety thinking of saying that. Or if I said it it wouldn't come across as natural and confident, less positive reaction.
If DMSI made me snipe every women the way I sniped that waitress on an older version of DMSI.. i think 2.4, then yes dmsi is better then AM. but It hasn't been that way ever since that day.
I knew AM was the right decision for me.
Shannon you have multiple runs of AM under your belt, like 5 or 8? If your guaging your effectiveness of DMSI based on your own results thats perhaps why your testing MAY be flawed.
You're not the first one to comment this, hopefully it's noted for future versions.
I felt like DMSI 3.01 was way better than 3.1. Obviously the clearing/healing on 3.1 is way more intense and delves so much deeper into the subconscious, but it does so too heavily, at the expense of building self-esteem/self-confidence and deeper attraction. I only have two AM6 runs under my belt, and both were slightly flawed (bad speakers, a bit of sabotage here or there) but I found that those two AM6 runs back to back were significantly less helpful to me than just 2 and a half months of DMSI 3.01. Maybe once (if) I come back to subs I'll finally try to get that third AM6 run under my belt, and if not, I'll try something else, but I would agree that DMSI 3.1 hasn't given me the best experience. Of course, there are plenty of other people executing the script as well, but I also tend to notice that those people executing are running like 7+ loops per day, which is well more than the original instructions recommended we do... so perhaps the sub comes into its most powerful effects only once the user disobeys the recommended running times and essentially overloads the brain into executing.
Interesting. I have considered maybe doing AM6 refresher for a bit. I wonder the effect with the healing i've been doing and how i've worked on more of my abandonment feelings.
Several choices I could make, none that I should make yet until having time off.