(09-25-2014, 03:24 AM)zen Wrote: [ -> ]Yeah, I don't think we are supposed to say negative statements about ourselves during EEFs. To work on those, we need to use PSTEC Positive with positive statements.
This is where you misunderstood me (partially my fault). I did say "Negative self-talk", but I did not mean negative statements about myself as a person, i.e. "I'm a loser/failure" or "I suck". What I meant was something like this:
Today at work it was finally starting to seem like I can leave most of those tasks behind me that have been keeping me from doing the work I'm actually supposed to do. However, turns out one of my colleagues is switching to another company (and I'm happy for him). As the days goes along, it becomes more & more clear that the assumption is that most of his unfinished tasks will fall on me and I should just magically make them go away.. probably months of work and AGAIN I couldn't focus on my main task. Not to worry, though, I'm getting it handled. Anyway, if, when I'd start to clear on this, I couldn't really bring up the restricting feeling, I could turn on this mental chatter on for a while until I'd get the feeling and then just tap on the feeling. The chatter is something like "fuck, at what point will I have time to that, when I've gotta do that, that and that, come on!". So its negative, but its not directed at myself really. I don't really have those "I suck" thoughts, but I can think "Well, this sucks" if I don't block it. And I realize those situation are just passing (
it shall pass).
(09-25-2014, 03:24 AM)zen Wrote: [ -> ]If you are thinking, you are wrong.
That means: don't use the same mind that is causing you problem to also solve the problems... it either will never work or will take a long, long time.
...but then this kept annoying me today. I *think* that 1st line may actually be right. The amount of click track runs I need shot up exponentially just lately, I think right after a tried that "wallowing" a bit. Those 21 times I didn't wallow, but I really concentrate on visualizing myself in the situations, making them harder all the time and really trying to feel the emotion really strong. If you look at those posts, I mentioned the feeling was never below a 7 intensity and often shot up because I'd just found some way of making myself feel the feeling even harder. Not using any verbals, but really imagining I'm there an amplifying the feeling. "Try to REALLY feel it" or something like that he says. I took the "no pain, no gain" approach. And it did work, eventually, I got huge releases from it. But it wasn't too fun anymore.
Will have to do more testing, but the right way could be to kind of hold the situation loosely in my mind, along with the feeling and be in a more relaxed, meditative state that *allows* the feeling to dissipate. Like keeping your gaze on the candle flame - you're not straining to look at it really hard, but you're not letting your eyes wander from it either. What do you guys think, this sound better? I could ask on the other forum, but I'm really spending too much time on the internet as it is with this forum, lol.
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Stage 2, Day 0. Just started, ah
-skilled flirt
-manifestation becomes a solid component
-new aura-things
-escalation de-sensitization
-body language effect &
eye seduction
-women notice, become interested in, and approach you is introduced
-no manipulation with sex, tricking into getting her pregnant, no STDs
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Sexual stamina and self control work begins
-Kills neediness. Increases sex drive.
-Introduces “pulling the trigger” resistance removal
-Introduces two special new types of manifestation method
That is a bunch, happy to get to work on all that! I think stage 1 took me around 20 +/- 5 days to kick in, so it seems very sensible from Frechmagnet said that he started to really notice the sexual performance effect towards the end of stage 2. I'm not getting clear results consistently yet, but overall I think stage 1 went well and I feel like I'm on the right track with this
I've been rearranging my life these last days so hopefully me chances of meeting new people increase a bit. Also, I filled in the ratings for my
monthly evaluation sheet. There's a fair bit of guesswork there.
I tried pstec negative 3 times today, seems interesting. We'll see how well it works. And I listened to that testimony from the woman who did similar stuff with social anxiety, liked it.