Subliminal Talk

Well, I haven't touched Bumble, other than to check into see if I got any swipe right. Well nothing.

I don't know what the hell is going on with Tinder, but I am not having a good time with it. I did a few more swiping, (it's addicting) and the quality of girls (at least in terms of appearances) seems to be gone down. Either it is running out of the girls, or my rating must be getting low. Okay, this is annoying, but what is more annoying is that it has shown me dudes, twice! WTF?

OKCupids, I wasn't able to write any messages yet as I had been on a long and important phone call. I briefly checked to see who liked me and I realized a few interesting things. Two of the likes that was there previously has disappeared (I don't know what that is supposed to mean), and I am getting likes from unattractive women.

Probably still too early to tell, but based on what I am seeing, I am not liking the experience. (Although I think OKCupid may have some potentials). Tinder and Bumble seem to have too many glitches (well, giving me two dudes was definitely a big fucking sign that is telling me to let go of it soon, and these apps can't even keep up with the restrictions I put on.). I am wondering if I will need to up the scale and go to more expensive one (which I'd rather not to, as I have also heard a lot of bad things about them as well), or just to call it a quits.

I am willing to hold out and experiment more until the end of the week. I should probably write a few messages to the girls I liked (I'm going to narrow down from the list of a dozen or so). If that does not work (meaning that I get zero swipes (or no matches) on Bumble, 0 match in Tinder), I'm probably going to quit this and look for alternative method. (Looked at some stuff advice or whatever. Didn't seem like it was a good reflection of me, and if that is what is required to succeed in online dating, I'm not going to do it. Why? By trying to be someone else, and by trying to exhibit someone else who is truly not me, I am wasting time on me and the girl. It is also disrespectful of me and her.)

Okay a little update.

Soooo, basically I got scammed on the site. Did I pay for anything? No. Could it hurt me? I suppose.

It is primarily my fault, but I also blame on the sub. I had a little inflated expectation and possibility that I didn't think as clearly. (Though I did my best to reduce possible damage.)

Given all this, all of the universe seems to be going against me in trying to get women/woman. Almost always, when I try something like this (i.e. try to get a woman or go on a date), something similar happens.

I also read that on Tinder there has been too many bots and scammers nowadays. I don't know what to do afterwards. But I can tell you this. I'm definitely very discouraged now.

(01-04-2017, 12:11 AM)sw72hw Wrote: [ -> ]Okay a little update.

Soooo, basically I got scammed on the site. Did I pay for anything? No. Could it hurt me? I suppose.

It is primarily my fault, but I also blame on the sub. I had a little inflated expectation and possibility that I didn't think as clearly. (Though I did my best to reduce possible damage.)

Given all this, all of the universe seems to be going against me in trying to get women/woman. Almost always, when I try something like this (i.e. try to get a woman or go on a date), something similar happens.

I also read that on Tinder there has been too many bots and scammers nowadays. I don't know what to do afterwards. But I can tell you this. I'm definitely very discouraged now.

Which site? This one?

(01-04-2017, 12:15 AM)wolverine_i_am Wrote: [ -> ]Which site? This one?

Hmm, I don't want to get details as this id is same as my skype id. Remember earlier that I got contacted by this HK girl. The person played nicely/innocently at first (hell even had legitimate looking profile, unlike other cammers/prostitutes) and then lured me later on to do the skype session. (Hell the person was good. He or she (dressed as a good looking girl) even had legitimate looking facebook profile with legitimate looking posts and stuff like that.)

I cut it short, but it still has enough that can damage.

Oh and I should clarify. Not scammed by the Indigo Mind labs. I got scammed on the dating site.
I should have known, and one part of me was cautious, but was taking risk. Stupid stupid risk.

There are scammers all over the internet. I'd advise you to look for girls in real life. At least you know they are real.

(01-04-2017, 12:23 AM)wolverine_i_am Wrote: [ -> ]There are scammers all over the internet. I'd advise you to look for girls in real life. At least you know they are real.

Totally. I didn't plan on doing that at all. I originally thought that the person was looking to practice English and that. (Even though the person already had relatively good English.) And then things turned weird/odd.

That's the difficult part though. Now I can't even trust anyone is remotely real unless the person is very nearby and is willing to meet in person. Which seems like that it isn't going to happen.

In the worst case, it will just jeopardize my honor and possible career employment issue. (And could possibly get kicked out of the family who knows.) If not, nothing may happen.

Just be ware of the daing app and sites. (Sigh)

Well, as far as I am aware, nothing has happened from the scammer side. I also had a phone conversation to my parents to never accept or open anything suspicious. (Told them that my things got hacked that something crazy may go on their way.) Blocked and reported the profiles of scammer (OKC, Facebook, Skype), and I deactivated Facebook account. Basically, I won't be using Tinder or Bumble anymore. (Since Facebook is down, I can't use it even if I want to.)

I was about to totally give up this entire stuff, (even considered finding ways to get castration) but I decided to give it a shot and given that I had to go through so many f*** up situations, I feel that I deserve to get a great success. Therefore, I ended up even signing up for Match.

So far I messaged 2~3 girls. I feel that I am investing too much time in crafting the mails, but hey I suppose I will get better as time goes on.

Anyway I got a good news from the school that I totally nailed my last semester. Now I just hope that I don't get to be revenged by the scammer for ignoring and not even considering to pay up.

And just what part of this was DMSI's fault?

Bro if you're on DMSI you don't need to talk to robots online lol.

Just go outside and stand near a girl.

(01-05-2017, 04:25 AM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ]And just what part of this was DMSI's fault?

Okay. Technically it's my fault, but what I wanted to say was that without being on the sub, I would never have expected stuff like that (i.e. girl first sending message and feeling so horny that she needs to go on cam with me) to happen that I would thought it very suspicious and would have called off. Hey girls approaching and feeling so horny about me is the intended goal of DMSI. (Also my semi-ultimate goal of the sub usage.) Since I was on the sub and had these expectations in mind, I must have been open to that crazy possibility, and that I became the victim of the scam.

That was what I meant. I suppose the sub didn't cause the problem. But my thoughts on what is possible from being on the sub, my being kind and nice, but gullible was the real reason for this. (Besides, this scammer did put in much effort. It was much more than the typical scammer. Trust me on that.)

In the end, my language came short in explaining the stuff, and my thoughts behind it.

I hope that clarified, and I apologize if I upset you from my not being clear.

(01-05-2017, 06:18 AM)PDjunkie Wrote: [ -> ]Bro if you're on DMSI you don't need to talk to robots online lol.

Just go outside and stand near a girl.

Perhaps that's true. And I can see that there are ton of bots online. I caught several scammers trying to scam me, and I all reported them. It was that the case I fell for was very sophisticated with very real looking profiles on both the dating app and Facebook. (Who knows that person could have been real for all I know.)

(01-04-2017, 01:11 PM)sw72hw Wrote: [ -> ]So far I messaged 2~3 girls. I feel that I am investing too much time in crafting the mails, but hey I suppose I will get better as time goes on.

I think you're wasting your time getting girls online. :/ Im not saying don't do it. But it should be secondary. Your primary focus should be to put yourself in situations where you are meeting real life girls. This is when the aura will be in direct contact with them and works best.

(01-05-2017, 09:32 AM)wolverine_i_am Wrote: [ -> ]I think you're wasting your time getting girls online. :/ Im not saying don't do it. But it should be secondary. Your primary focus should be to put yourself in situations where you are meeting real life girls. This is when the aura will be in direct contact with them and works best.

Totally. Tomorrow I will be going to a social event, and next week is fully booked with social stuff. (I just signed up for a social membership stuff that my therapist suggested. And apparently that was geared for singles, so who know what happens.)

Besides, I canceled all subscriptions (meaning that I will not be paying next month). I just wanted to experiment it for this month. Well, more likely these two weeks or so. (School starts~~)

Also now I am tempted to delete the apps, account and everything, but since I started, and been only on it for like 3 days make me think that I should give a little more time. Nevertheless, I am having 0 success whatsoever, and it is getting to a point of nearly forgetting and ignoring the stuff. It's becoming boring and all it has done to me so far is damaging my confidence, and significant loss of trusting others. Only negative so far.

You are right. At least till now, it has been a waste of time.

(01-05-2017, 09:52 AM)sw72hw Wrote: [ -> ]

(01-05-2017, 09:32 AM)wolverine_i_am Wrote: [ -> ]I think you're wasting your time getting girls online. :/ Im not saying don't do it. But it should be secondary. Your primary focus should be to put yourself in situations where you are meeting real life girls. This is when the aura will be in direct contact with them and works best.

Nevertheless, I am having 0 success whatsoever, and it is getting to a point of nearly forgetting and ignoring the stuff. It's becoming boring and all it has done to me so far is damaging my confidence, and significant loss of trusting others. Only negative so far.

You are right. At least till now, it has been a waste of time.

I've experienced this in so many cycles with online dating. it's ridiculous. I lost hope in it altogether as well. Can't say about the future, because I do intend on trying it again later. But for right now, it's a waste of time and emotional energy; 2 things I can't afford to waste at this point in time.

It was worth a shot, though. At least you have the experience under your belt, even if it was negative.