The aura that comforts women hasn't yet been installed, so maybe that will help you out. Think it may be introduced in Stage 2. You can look at the instructions for the sub, or wait for CatMan to chime in.
Hi there,
I've experienced the same phernomenon, even on AM6 in the last stages. I believe it's the auras not being set in fully, and you still not fully accepting the programming so it's like an awkward mix of SM3 and you. This should stabilise in time. It's a massive amount of change in a short period. There's likely to be some transition time.
(08-15-2015, 08:55 PM)eternitys_child Wrote: [ -> ]Updated addon to negative: I got called creepy today by one of the girls that I just met today. I'm super resentful because one of my best friends is awesome with the ladies, he's always got them giving him IOI's, and he seems to be super comfortable with himself and women, but I REALLY don't know what the **** it is with me! I wish I knew so I could ***** improve myself, it's really discouraging with new girls being intimidated by me. Girls who've known OF me for a while seem extra comfortable with me, but not with new girls. Is it because of the way I look? I got facial hair and I'm indian, so do the girls think I'm a terrorist?! do white girls just hate indian men? I try to be myself around these girls but what the **** man, it's super discouraging. Situations like this make me feel that my negative self talk exists for a REASON, and that's from EXPERIENCE rather than false expectations...
i'm extra discouraged right now, but i know I'll look back on this in a few months and laugh at it, but right now it's the biggest deal in the world to me and it's pissing me off to no end.
Women like to press men's buttons to see how we react, and to search for insecurities. If they're amused by our reactions, and can't poke out any insecurity, then they f**k us. (If we show absolutely no insecurities whatsoever though then they'll think somethings up and that we're hiding something and that's not a good thing, you just need to know the balance)
It's as simple as that really as long as they are having fun being around you. If you're insecure about being Indian then the women will notice. They'll never stop poking our buttons trying to find insecurities or trying to see if we react in unfavorable ways. They are extremely efficient at weeding out guys that are "unworthy" of the tang.
It has nothing to do with you being Indian. It's like some white guy that's having trouble being like "what, white girls only like black guys or something? fu*k..."
Women are funny.
When a girl calls me a creep I just say something to make them laugh like "I should make a pull string doll named (her name) and when you pull it it's just like "you're a creep!"
Then they laugh and say more stupid bullsh*t to me, but then there's also girls where there's no stupid sh*t just minor little things here and there and those are usually the girls I have better connections with, and since there's a better connection they don't put me through as much sh*t because they already like me. Other girls are testing to see how you react you cannot take it personal or you will literally hate yourself
(08-17-2015, 03:12 AM)TheRealJustin Wrote: [ -> ]When a girl calls me a creep I just say something to make them laugh like "I should make a pull string doll named (her name) and when you pull it it's just like "you're a creep!"
This is good, I'm gonna remember this one from now on, thanks!
(08-17-2015, 10:58 AM)apollolux Wrote: [ -> ] (08-17-2015, 03:12 AM)TheRealJustin Wrote: [ -> ]When a girl calls me a creep I just say something to make them laugh like "I should make a pull string doll named (her name) and when you pull it it's just like "you're a creep!"
This is good, I'm gonna remember this one from now on, thanks!
Lol, I have lots of golden nuggets up my sleeve. That line is golden if you meet women on apps because you hear "creep, you're creepy, bye, eww, gross, go away ect" all the time when talking to girls online and they almost always love it but sometimes you do get the major cu*t that's like "didn't I say stop talking to me?!? Go away" (or something worse) I never even try to get passed those girls walls because they are not people I would ever want to know in a million years.
My main point though is I wanted eternitys_child to know that even if he was what he thinks he needs to be, he would still deal with the same shit for the most part. It has nothing to do with being Indian, maybe for some girls that's a deal breaker, but no matter what race you are it's going to be a deal breaker for some girls. Not everybody is meant to get along or be attracted to everybody.
Some people have sh*t easier than others, but you just have to work with what you've got.
Think of Kumar from Harold & Kumar, or the Indian guy on The Big Bang Theory. Those two probably have fuc*ed some of the most gorgeous women on the planet.
There's a whole hoard of sh*t that comes into play with attracting women, and looks and race are just a small part of it, and looks and race are only surface level.
You could be going door to door selling candy bars that are only chocolate and all the girls could be like "gross, I only like the candy bars with the nuts in them" it's not a big deal because you will find just as many girls that prefer the candy bars that you're selling.
Some like pure chocolate, some like with nuts, some like with caramel, some with peanut butter, some candy coated, some with whatever whatever, and some women aren't picky and will try any kind and see if they like it.
I'm not the best at explaining things. I'm saying you just can't let women make you wish you were not you. You are you and you should never wish to be someone else. I wish I was in better shape and made more money, but I never have and never will wish to be someone else. Be proud that you're Indian. If you learn how to rock it, you'll have guys looking at what you're doing and they will be wishing that THEY were Indian. They'll be like "why can't I get pus*y like that? I wish I was Indian, that lucky fuc*er
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Hope you get what I'm saying lol I'm so bad at getting what's in my head out of my head.
(08-18-2015, 01:38 PM)eternitys_child Wrote: [ -> ]I really appreciate the words of realism Justin.. That whole race thing has been a major negative self talk going through my head, and as much as I want to think it's false, I didn't have any basis for considering it false, but your words helped me realize that the negative self image is unwarranted.
Right, if you let yourself think your struggles with women is due to your race, then you will never get passed whatever the real issue is because thinking that your race is the problem is going to keep you blind of the actual problem.
stage 2 day 9
I quit my job, expecting to leave to india in september. but just found out i'm not leaving til november lol. yay for more sex magnet in america where the women are easy and the men are sleazy. Also, plenty of time means an awesome opportunity to update!
Major mental focus is around self improvement in the "game" area. Thoughts of how things would be perceived by women, such as what I say or what I do. The alpha trait of wanting to "do the right thing" has carried over tremendously, and I felt super guilty today slapping the ass of the blonde girl who's dating my friend. we have an inside joke regarding butts; she was about to slap mine from behind but I turned around too quickly and when i saw her she retracted, and told me what she was going to do. So a few secs later I do it to her... and OMG I FELT SO GUILTY.... but the motion was totally natural and I didn't have to consciously make the decision whether or not I should do it. lol.. WEIRD, but I apologized to her later and cleared up my side of the street saying I was way out of line with my unauthorized physical contact today.
Also some of the stuff I say is REALLY cheesy and my room mate straight up said to me yesterday "dude if I was a girl that would have TOTALLY turned me off" in response to something I said. My other friend also says similar stuff all the time to me in response to my cheezy jokes or statements. I have a lot of work to do in the verbiage department, and what diarrhea comes out of my mouth in the way I am "being myself" around women.
The good thing is, I have totally been viewing those comments towards me as constructive criticism. I want to use it to improve myself in the women arena.
I'm pretty sure approach anxiety is being dealt with. it's far easier to talk to girls that i haven't met yet, although escalation is still an issue for me.
That one tinder girl has fallout, bad.. lol. I used to CRAVE for girls to fallout for me, but now it's almost sad!! I don't freaking understand tho, we went out on monday and she picked me up in her van and then picked up her other friend...... not entirely sure why she needed backup? maybe she needed reassurance since it was her 3rd time meeting me in person and wanted comfort in knowing she's with a good person? idk i don't know the fine art of understanding women scientifically. We're gonna hangout again on thursday. I need to pull the freekin trigger, but i'm such a lil bitch when it comes to that lol. I've missed so many opportunities with countless women because I can't pull that trigger. All over bullshit self image or perception similar to what JUSTIN helped me smash in the previous posts.
There's this one 18 year old mexican chick I see all teh time but just started chatting with a couple days ago, and now she's greeting me with "hiiii frieeendddd" type stuff, but held me for 8 seconds when she hugs me today so.... mixed messages? I tend to hold hugs with women until I sense that the hug has reached it's welcomed time, so i didn't let go until i sensed it with her.
Another mexican chick who's about to start her senior year in high school (most likely not 18 yet) that i catch eyeing me from time to time. i've chatted with her a couple times, good conversations... little bit of flirting but me being uneasy about her age, and i haven't had the balls to straight up ask her tho i should dig around through my network and find out how young she is.
redheaded girl who's tall, pasty, and busty has eyed me "longingly" and smiled sensually a couple times this week. i've chatted with her a bit, and she's had a thing for my friend (who calls me out on my cheesy statements) and he's cut it off with her, so i sense a bit of "i need a guy in my life, doesn't matter who" mentality in her. another friend of mine has fuqqed her already too so it's not that the easiness of the situation turns me off, something just doesn't seem right.
COUGAR NATION for real, azn milf posting straight sexual shit on my facebook, DYING to fuqq.
46 year old HOT 10 from previous post held deep eye contact during our conversation today, and when i told her i'll be here another couple months, she said "good, that means we can spend more time together!" and she told me about how she dated a sri lankan in the past (yet again alluding to justin's self image SMASHER that my view on myself is wrong)
Went out to the movies tonight with a bunch of friends, guys and 2 of the mexican girls previously mentioned in this post plus one chick's mom who's tall pasty and busty. i've chatted with this lady a lot in the past, and our interactions get SLIGHTLY more physical each time I see her (twice a week), most recently being warm hugs and today her telling me she loves me. She commented positively about my mustache and my scent (pheromones).
GOD HER DAUGHTER IS FREAKING HOT AS HELL, 10 looks, 10 personality, definitely long term material. and the daughter was commenting that she loved my mustache, too.
O_O O_O O_O O_O O_O O_O O_O I haven't had SEX yet, but it's getting close O_O
**Side note ---- I JUST REALIZED the sleepphones seem to have speakers on both sides of the fleece O_O.... that means the two dudes I share a room with are getting exposed!!!!???? One of the dudes is gay, so he does not meet the qualification requirement of being heterosexual... but the otehr one who's literally a few feet away from my bed has got to be hearing it all night..
AND ALSO, there's this dude that's in the adjacent room who's got serious depression and self consciousness issues and I'M REALLY HOPING the sleep phones aren't loud enough to where he's being exposed too. Because he's been REALLY FREAKING depressed, anxious, OCD about himself lately. The wall is made of bricks but there's glass windows and if you talk loud enough on one side, you can hear it on the other..................................................................................
This shit has me worried. If I'm exposing my room mates with the sleep phones, I'm just gonna switch back to speakers.
Hey man, on the Sleephones thing, it's fine. The coloured side is the side that faces in toward your head, that's the speaker side. Make sure you have them facing the right way. You can check it by running Frequensee and seeing the drop when you switch it to face the other way.
If you simply took the speaker out of the headband and pretended it was a speaker, then yes it could be heard.
But if it's put flush against your head while in the headband, as it's designed to be, and used at a safe volume, that won't be happening.