Subliminal Talk

Follow up... of DAY 5 - DAYTIME

So my feel of Chinese women were true. They are really bad at english and I actually also knew that from my 3 cousins...

I went all around Sanlitun Village but couldn't find what I was looking for. Then I remembered a great mall in the middle of the Villages, so I went there. You can haggle about the price there :-)

It was an interesting experience, because if you bid too low you'll just be seen as disrespectful and look like a fool. It was actually uncomfortable to haggle but it saved me money and gave me reference. How interesting it is, the way to haggle.

You are the CEO of a company and the buyer and you got to remember that, if not.. it's easy to throw away money you could have saved.

Some of the same principles used in game:
- buyer, seller dynamic
- empathy - you got to be considerate of the seller


On to meeting women:
There was one pretty Chinese girl working in an Asian version of Victoria Secret lingerie. I walked past the store 4 times! 1.st time I hesitated and didn't walk in the store even though she was the only one there. The other times, there were colleagues/the manager or customers. So the 4.th time I thought about some strong motivation I could give to myself. It was not about the girl anymore.. it was about DEATH.. If I did not talk to her, I would DIE. So I said to myself "GUN TO YOUR HEAD" and right after I walked in the store, despite the fact that she was helping out two customers.

I walked straight over to her and said, "Hi.. you look very beautiful!" she looked at me then down like being submissive while trying to understand what I was saying mixed with confusion. After I said it, I stood for 1-2 seconds and left. Somewhere in my body it felt like the first time I cold-approached a girl and gave her a compliment (which was also in China) but the nervousness was dampened a lot and I actually only felt very little of it. My subconscious thought it was weird what I did, so I quickly removed myself but at least I did what I needed to do.

As far as meeting women outside stores, I didn't approach any. I did though enjoy the presence of some women after I'd been standing my ground at an open space on the street for a while.

Key notes: Being at the hotel, isolated for 2 days and going out afternoon is a rough state of mind to be in, if you have nothing but yourself to rely on meeting women you do not know. NOTICED: Waking up early and going out since at least noon, while having enjoyed the presence of nature or women, I'll naturally have more desire and easier time to meet women throughout the day.

DAY 6 - DAYTIME

Today I took my brother and went to an improv class for the first time in my life and his. It was an interesting experience. (I'm only here in Beijing few days more.. I can't believe there's none improv classes in Copenhagen...)

It was really fun and you get out of your comfort zone a lot. The topics were body-language and high/low status. Very interesting and relating things with being great with women.

I learned a lot like and man.. there's a lot of things I related to:

we looked upon a lot of non-verbals:

- Who's got the most status?
- Who reacts more to the other?

It was the person who tried or reacted the most who came off as lower status, so you can't really fake it.

An example of an exercise:

two persons,
first person: hi
second person: hi
first person: have you been waiting long time?

1. two persons had to show the crowd that they were the highest status of those two
2. the same but with lowest status

I learned something very interesting: the person who have had most practice (certain kind of body-langauge as default) with certain kind of status had the easiest time to project that to the crowd, while the ones who had less "practice" with that kind of status had a hard time to do it so it looked more real than the other person.

For example,

We were doing the low status, even though I tried to be as low status I could the person that was naturally low status in his body-language was tied with me (and he didn't even do much).
Another thing I could relate to was, if you already are high-status and you try to convey it more than the other person, you'll become lower status.

And one important thing I noticed more (a bit mixed thoughts with this observation) was: Often times the two persons were tied of either low or high status. My thoughts are that it was because none of the two tried to influence the other but rather tried to do their own act of high or low status (it is very little you get off from only hi and have you been waiting long).

So another key-point: Influence the other persons status (it's harder than you think, try influence a high-status person to a lower status). You have to genuinely be confident and grounded in order to do that for high-status and not seem reaction seeking too.

I can recommend everyone to take improv classes. It's a great way to develop social intuition.

DAY 7 - NOTES

Being a high value guy you have lots of responsibilities.
- You have to be extra in-tune with other peoples mood around you
- You have to be the one who leads the interaction forward
- You have to maintain an attitude of not showing off that you are of higher value but be empathic with people while leading

I've realized something. I'm much more high-value than I think I am. It's like I'm not being 100% sure that I am high-value but I know I'm pretty close. I just need to own it fully.

That's the reason why my interactions goes as they go because I'm still balancing around without a cement-like foundation. I've come to the point where I can go in an interaction and demand attention and look confident but I'm still having some counter-beliefs because of my value-system.

So how do I develop the last bits?

1. One option would be to lock myself away from society and all kinds of distractions for a week or two and start rebuilding my own value systems, purely from my own thinking and not from societies expectations and distractions.

2. Another option which is a longer route, is to go through my daily life and be very open-minded and curious, and start practicing one skill-set for a month or so then another kind of skill-set etc.

- Thinking what's important and who I want to be EVERY DAY
- Meditate EVERY NIGHT

Option 2 is the only option that suits me right now since I'm traveling around China!

Some thoughts

Everything we want is in the pool...

The pool is where the magic is. Dip your toes in and you'll get nowhere. Jump in and you'll face reality...

Our enemy is our thinking. Though thinking is really good for logical things, like math or solving puzzles but when it comes to people, it is DYNAMIC. You can't reason with what is flowing. To reason is to kill the magic...

What can I say.. our society is built in this way so that we are thinking logical all day long...

So start creating the magic out of nothing, do not try but be!

The first couple of times you create mud
Then you learn that mud has its own role, so you create grass
Then you discover that grass has it's own role too, so you create animals
Then you finally discover that all these things you've created cannot live without Sun, Water and Air

Now you understand. Now you've gotten a closer look at the truth.. at reality...

testing testing testing

RECAP OF WOMAN MAGNET STAGE 6

This stage has been hard to notice the differences. I've been socializing the least in this stage because of my operation, my sickness and my traveling with my mother and brother.

I'll try to remember it as best as I can

- More finetuning of approach anxiety
- A lot of things seems possible when I see something. It's like it starts out with all the positive things that could happen if I did approach that girl but if I linger, I come up with negative ones
- Generally doing more things that helps to reach my end-goal
- More self-amused and less caring of what people says
- More belief in my values
- More grounded
- I've become very un-curious about people.. like not feeling like asking questions at all.. but on the other hand I've become much more aware of how a person is..
- More observant and more solid (in my approach)

In overall, it has been more of a fine-tuning stage of the new me.

RECAP OF WM 2.0

It has been a long journey with this subliminal.

After I finished Sex Magnet 2011, I used AM 2011 refresher (Stage 6) for a month and then excitedly began WM 2.0

I had a very good feeling about it and it came true...

The first weekend after I started using it, I had one or two girls, every night that wanted to hook up, with me, just being myself (even though it's a bad advice BUT my former experiences and the subliminal made it natural)

3 nights of fun. Then after I encountered some more "natural" ways of meeting women. It led to when a woman approached me, it was ON (except with the very hot ones because of me not knowing how to lead it and also a bit afraid to screw it up). Before I would mess it up by being too reserved or too aggressive.

There are a lot of interesting and great posts by different members in this thread, so look around if you want to see more detailed shifts and experiences.
When I look back, I recall lots of things I've forgotten but remember as soon as I read through them - very interesting

Overall, I've matured a lot since I started the program. I've become more grounded. Less affected by rejection. Just less affected by anything really.

The biggest thing I can say about the program is that it has made my neediness with women go really low and I've become very grounded... The program has much more to do with you than with women...

The rest is up to you, as a man, to discover how to connect and create fun, exciting and enjoyable experiences with women...