Subliminal Talk

The hottest and most beautiful woman (blonde, pink small dress, amazing curves and beautiful) I've seen for a long time walked past me and my classmates today. A real stunner. We were waiting to get in to our final exams lol.

1. time I noticed her from nowhere and she walk past us, like in between us to get to the toilet.

2. time I saw her walk towards us to get past us again but my heart was beating fast! and I didn't say anything.

FURIOUS I became of myself and I couldn't take my mind off her. It was extremely annoying.

3. time she walked past us with a friend, "you are SO distracting.. why are you doing this to me? I have to focus on my exam!"

Giggling "I know.. I know.. hihihih" while walking past us

I'm probably never going to see her again now. I regret that I didn't ran over to her and demanded that we will hang out after I'm done with the exam....

Interesting thing was that I didn't hold back and it felt great. The other guys had different opinions on that but didn't matter at all.

I have a really great foundation. It's crazy. It's now only about me taking FULLY control over my life...

Hell yea, Lion Monkey!

After using stage 6 for a while and having had a month off from socializing, I've become less worried about how reactive I am to people. Usually I'm pretty aware of who who and when I want to react but revelry it had been more of a stream of consciousness talk and reaction to people.

A bit like Russell Brands gibberish talk

Stage 6 - Day 26,


I'm in Beijing right now and I'm going to meet women every day.

At least 30-60 minutes daygame and at least 2 nights a week of nightgame.

This is my journal and I'll keep posting of my experiences. Learning from mistakes will be addressed too.

Enjoy the ride!

DAY 1 - DAYTIME

I'm living in a hotel just near the central Beijing called SanLiTun. The most international place in Beijing you can come to. Went to a modern café and got a caesar salad with chicken as lunch and a protein-rich oat smoothie. Then listened to some history of China as my homework that I got back in Copenhagen. The downside of this city is, besides the 30+ celsius here in Beijing, most Chinese women aren't f***able.

Well at least for me.. since my preference isn't Asian women I was trying to "desire" some I saw. It was hard. To invoke a genuine desire to f*** them, mostly from within.

There were two Asian girls sitting in my view and the one who faced me were in a "mode" of wanting to have sex. She had her one hand between her legs and the other reaching far out on the table. She also touched herself lightly with her fingertips over her breasts and she was talking like she was dreaming but couldn't reach the dream.

I tried to invoke a desire to f*** her and it got built up a bit. So as I was finished doing my thing at the café, I went around the area for a bit.

Out of the many girls I noticed, there were 2 I felt in my gut that I wanted to sincerely get to know and f***. One was a stunning little Chinese brunette who was sitting with some elderly weird man in Starbucks. I couldn't understand WHAT THE HELL SHE WAS SITTING THERE WITH HIM FOR?? She seemed like she didn't listen to him but had to be there with him :S

I stood in the middle of the café and looked at her and she looked back. I began to smile, like.. "yeah.." totally owning the moment and she stared for a few seconds. I stood there for 10 seconds more, deciding if I should go over and talk to her or not. I decided not to. It wasn't hard to let go though but in any case, it was a road less taken that I didn't take right there and therefor an adventure or story I passed. Gotta step it up!

Anyways the other girl was a little stunning Chinese girl with red hair and high heels. I saw her just as I had walked out of Starbucks. She was walking in my direction. I noticed her and I sensed she noticed me as I walked towards my hotel (I got great style and I'm good-looking. not that tall though) but I didn't even think about talking to her, I just had a simmering gut-feeling like, "woaw.. yeah... "

So, two possibilities that I would take, I passed on, without really knowing why. Or I know why... It is really about KNOWING what you want and HAVING A STRONG INTENT.

Tonight I'm going to check some bars and maybe some clubs out!

DAY 1 - NIGHTTIME (FRIDAY)

A night of being less fun and more relaxed

I had some small doubts about going out tonight after I had dinner with my mom and brother. Eventually I decided to do it without a strong desire. I went to a popular rooftop bar called Migah. Entrance fee was 50¥ which is around 9$. I was already not in the mood for it and now I had to pay too. The upside was that the entrance girl was a smoking blonde, beautiful in a natural way.

Lots of people and freaking 25 celsius without wind!!

So I start out very chodish. Not in a social mood yet. Fighting through the crowd. I start talking to a tall guy standing beside.

Turns out to be a DJ that plays often in the bar and also the boyfriend of the girl at the entrance. Interesting. He offered to buy me something to drink and I accepted a bit hesitant. Cool dude.

Usually I'm completely sober when I go out but I thought that it would be fine with one beer and since it was free.

Alright, on to the girls! TIME 01:00AM

I've already got some "no thank you" from two groups of girls. Very rude of them and weird. I began to be more self-amused.

Standing at my space and saying hello! and waving to some girls who walked past but were ignored, even though I was pretty loud in my voice. Made me even more self-amused.

0. SET CALIFORNIAN GIRL

I see a cute brunette with bambi eyes and a dress. I said hello to her and she's open. We talked a bit about why I'm here in Beijing and what she does here.

Turns out she's a jewelry designer and she just got off from work so she wasn't dressed to the occasion, trying to qualify. I scanned her body and qualified her a bit, "it's fine".

She wanted to find her friend and I hesitated a bit thinking about taking her number and keep meeting new girls. She said, "you can come with me if you want"
me: "you know what. give me your number, I want to have a cup of coffee with you".
her: "okay, but not tomorrow. I got some appointments"
me: "yeah me too"
her: "but sometime next week"
me: "yeah sure"

LESSON: Be more qualifying and make her chase more, for the fun of it. Risk more. Or else it isn't fun or worth it

1. SET RUSSIAN GIRLS

Two girls were taking pictures of each other. I had in mind to make some fun out of it, so I got into the picture and made a retarded face. Had a bit laugh from it.

The tall hot one was very attentive and interested in listening to what I had to say while the other was ignorant. I found out they were Russians.

I think I said, "I need a date tonight" and they were like "It's a girls night" then I said, "Well I can be on a girls night too" (or something along those lines)

Led to nothing as they excused themselves because I couldn't lead the interaction. Still a bit rusty.

LESSON: Do no try to join their party. Make your own party.

2. SET FRENCH GIRLS

Two brunettes at the bar. One hot in black and one cute in red. Talked a bit French for as much as I know of the language just for the sake of the fun. The one in black was very distracted while the one in red was attentive and friendly.

I asked them how to say I love you in French after I told them how to do that in Danish. The one in black said, you don't say that, there's no word for it. Go figure it out yourself. I ignored it and bought my creative expression in front but when I look at it now, it is kinda amusing.

I still couldn't lead the interaction. The one in black eventually walked away to their group and her friend followed just a few seconds after with a "I'm sorry, I'm going to the group" (they were with a group of german guys). I put my hand on her lower back and said "it's okay". Because it was ok. She liked that.

LESSON: It's okay. You have to warm up before the more fun interactions can happen

3. SET WEIRD HOT TALL BRUNETTE

I see this stunning brunette at the bar by herself waiting to order. I tap her and begin to talk to her. She looked away a lot and she seemed like to me, was being friendly but rude at the same time. It was very weird. Like she was actively trying to not have chemistry with me.

So I decided to let this one go and not pursue it further (re-approach her) since I do not like no chemistry and none fun girls even if they are smoking hot.

LESSON: I saw her later standing with her hot friends in a circle and she noticed me. I had a gut-feeling that she wanted me to talk to her. To push it further, just go in to sets with hot girls without chemistry and see what might happen for the sake of fun and reference.

4. SET RE-APPROACH ON 2 FRENCH GIRLS

I saw them again at the bar talking to each other and I walked over. "Hello again. It's me again! Annoying me!"

Interestingly enough, this time the hot one in black was very open while the one in red was very distracted. (the one in red had decided to try to sleep with one of the german guys)

Talked some gibberish but was still not able to self-amuse myself fully without their feedback. Couldn't lead the interaction still.

Eventually they turned to face each other and got their drinks and I walked away.

LESSON: Keep talking and make them invest or give compliance to your presence by screening instead of only expressing and entertaining

5. SET TWO GERMAN BLONDES, JUST ARRIVED

Two minutes after I walked away from the French girls I saw these two blondes. One of them was a real stunner. I tapped her shoulder as they were walking past me and she stopped, "you are SO cute, I had to meet you"

She liked it and giggled.

Pulled her in a bit as we shook hands but she stood her ground, she was like, "We are going to get some drinks!"

"just two minutes!" taking her hand and pulling her in. Arm around her shoulder, "you are my girlfriend for tonight"

Giggles but her friend dragged her and she was also like, "We gotta get our drinks! We'll talk later!" as our hands disconnected.

LESSON: It was executed very well, like a natural. To push it further, go more sexual immediately so she stops thinking about anything. Do not be afraid to lose her.

6. SET RE-APPROACH TWO FRENCH GIRLS

THE TIME WAS NOW 02:20 AND I DECIDED TO GO HOME IN MINUTES, TO WAKE UP EARLY TOMORROW

This time the hot French girl in black was with a new, just arrived friend. I went over and said, how are you my sweetheart. Everything out of my mouth to her was with emotion. I engaged both of them. As I stood still for a while I told her that I'm actually going now.

her: "well.. hope Beijing is treating you well"

me: "actually.. what's your name again? (being very physical in a friendly way)

her: "xyz"

me: "xyz, what's your number, I want to have a cup of coffee with you"

her: (nah ah) "I don't give my number out to anybody..."

her: "I have a boyfriend" (meanwhile her friend was totally hating this moment and looking ignorant)

me: "that's okay"

her: (surprised expression)

me: "I'm not looking for a girlfriend either"

her: (like her mind reversed or something)

me: "do you have email?"

her: "yeah"

Her putting her email in my phone. To engage the friend I asked her, "do you think she'll respond?" actually I often said to her friend how lovely she is etc. while she just ignored me.

her friend: "you don't even had her name? have you just met her?"

me: "no I've met her three times already"

her friend: "but you can't remember her name"

I ignored it. I said goodbye to the french girl with hug and a kiss on each cheek and then I wanted to do the same with her friend but she avoided and me and my girl looked at each other with an odd expression like, weird...

LESSON: A girls resistance is only to be broken by a vibe of non-neediness, persistency and the right choice of words. Re-approaching same girls also makes you seem like a person they know and they are easier to open up

I DECIDED TO FIND THE STUNNING BLONDE AND GET HER NUMBER BEFORE I WOULD LEAVE

7. SET TALL FRENCH GIRL

In the middle of the crowd of steaming air I noticed a tall brunette girl by herself. I tapped her shoulder and said, "you are tall!" and she's like, "I know! I cannot help it! I also have high heels on".

I asked where she's from, "France"
She asked where I was from, "Heaven... yeah it's a beautiful place.."

her: "I have to get to the bathroom"

She was friendly. The interaction wasn't that fun.

LESSON: Sometimes it's just more efficient to have a normal conversation when the girl is open and not challenging.


8. SET RE-APPROACH TWO BLONDE GIRLS

I was looking for them for a few minutes. I saw them surrounded by people at the bar, waiting for their drinks.

So I waited for the right timing. They eventually took a seat and I joined them.

stunner: "ohh hey! it's you again"

me: "what's up girls. I'm actually going soon"

we talked a bit about why we were here in Beijing and where we were from. The stunner was German. EVERYBODY WAS GERMAN lol.

Her friend made fun of being a stripper and not telling me what they were doing there.
That was after I had told them my truth, where I was from, so I changed it to, "actually I just go a stripper-job yesterday night. I'm going to work tomorrow night"

her friend, "so we got many things in common!"

me, "yeah, don't you hate when people touch you while you are working on the scene?"

the stunner interrupted, "no seriously where are you from?" (I've already said that but it seems like she needs to be baited to want to sincerely know that)

me, "Copenhagen"

her, "okay" in a blasé

she looked attentive now.

then she noticed some of her Chinese friends. So they had their girl greetings and it was time to go. Her friends were seated besides her now.

me, "I have to go"

her, "Really? Ohh well.. hope you enjoy Beijing"

me, "I want to see you again"

her, "I'm right here"

me, "I have to go, I have to get up early tomorrow"

me, "Actually give me your number, I want to have a cup of coffee with you"

her, "Okay."

Finding her phone and giving her number.

me, "You can't remember you number?"

her, "Yeah.. I know.. it's because of all the fun"

me, "I like that"

Gave all the three of them a high-five before I left.

She was a real stunner. Seemed like a girl who didn't take much responsibility of her "fun" actions at all.

LESSON: Push it more maybe. Go for the lay even though odds were against you

DAY 2 - DAYTIME

Today I slept for a long time. I literally passed out after some breakfast at 8AM because of late tired eyes from yesterday nights sleep at 4AM. Woke up around 5PM and my mood was definitely not on the right track.

Me and my brother went to accompany my mother at some fancy shopping mall. At the mall I saw two Chinese stunners in really fantastic low-cut dresses and I didn't do anything. It was not until I thought back of their dresses and the way they radiated feminine beauty that I regretted not meeting them.

It started to piss rain when we came back to our hotel. I saw this cute blonde in the lobby. Her hair was fixed in a way like a half flower-crown. I didn't do anything. Then I looked back at the reception and she was gone.

I walked outside to see she was standing under some cover for the rain. I walked over to her, "excuse me. hi, I just thought you were really cute so I had to meet you. I'm James"

We talked for about 5 mins. She was German, had an apartment in the hotel and had a single big bed. She has lived in Beijing for 2 weeks now, and she was going to meet up with her friend.

Since I just came home and wanted to take a bath before I went out, I told her so. So I grabbed her number and hugged her. "you can text me later" she said.

It's ridicules how these opportunities comes when you do not care much of the feeling of desire to hook up with a girl before you go over to her.
It's like throwing yourself into the water, without knowing what kind of water it is or what is in the water.

LESSON: To push it further, next time try to pull the girl to her apartment. She was clearly not in a hurry to get to her friend.

DAY 2 - NIGHTGAME

This night was a rough night. Many things didn't work out and my intent was not very high. Though there were lessons and references.
I would really appreciate feedback, critique or thoughts! I love that kind of stuff and it may also put some things in perspective!

In this post I'll describe in details as much as I remember from the encounters with the German Blonde girl.

I texted the german blonde I met at my hotel a hour later, "Hey xyz, hope you reached your friend safely from the rain ;-) I'm waiting to go out. Shit, this rain is never going to stop! Where are you going?"

As I was waiting for the rain to stop, I fell asleep. The time was 11:30PM.

When I woke up it was 1AM and the german blonde had just texted me,

her: "Where are u? I am at a bar in Sanlitun",
her: "Lets meet"

I replied half an hour later,

me: "I'm soon at Sanlitun let's meet! Where are you now?

15 minutes later

me: "I'm at Nali Patio now! Where are you?

I went to the same bar as yesterday night, except this time I went to their indoor bar, since the rain had closed the rooftop bar.

Met two groups of girls there. I'll come back to all the sets I met after describing the events with the blonde german girl.

her: "At kokomo! It is a rooftop bar."

me: "Where's that?"

me: "Found it now I just need to find out how you get up there!

her: "Can't describe! Just ask somebody?

her: Perfect

her: "We are at the dancefloor"

After 10 minutes I found the entrance and went up to the bar. Looked around for 1 minute got a text from her:

her: "Hej where are u?"

me: "On the roof"

I noticed her with her friend but began to talk to a German brunette instead. Thinking that I would not come on her terms but rather I came because I want to see what's up and that it's cool that she's there too.

So after a few minutes of some self-amusing with the German brunette I saw the blonde girl on the way downstairs with her friend.

I excused myself from the brunette and went over to the blonde.

She was escorting her friend which was very sad because a guy that she's seeing was flirting with other girls.
She began to cry and the blonde helped her out.

I stood and waited for 3-5 minutes and then her friend left.

We greeted with a hug and I took her hand and led the way through the empty bar then she led the way to the roof and said,

her: "let's go and meet my friends"

me: "your friends?"

her: expression of, yeah sort of

me: "alright, lets meet your friends"

It was a group of 3 guys and 1 girl. She introduces me to the Chinese girl in the group.

I greet her and one of the guys with glasses start talking to the blonde. I just stood there and tried to feel and enjoy the vibe. (The Chinese girl eventually walked away and sat at a chair a bit away from the group) I interrupt after a while and greet the guy. Then the blonde goes past us and walk over to another guy from the group sitting with a hat on who hasn't said anything

So I noticed pretty quickly that I was just a piece of puzzle to her. She was onto this guy with the hat.

After a while when the guy ignored the blonde she came to me and said, "

her: "you need to get a drink"

me: "why?"

her: "blablabla"

me: interrupting her "I don't drink"

her: "no?"

me: "only on special occasions

her: "so this is not a special occasion?"

me: "no, I only drink on big events, like new years or good friends birthdays.. maybe at your birthday"

her: laughing and walked back to the guy with the hat.

I removed myself from the group and began meeting girls. (I'll come back to the sets I met)

On my way home 4AM I saw the blonde german girl standing with one of the guys from the group with glasses.

I said hello to them and she was like

her: "ohh hey! are you going back to your hotel?"

me: "yes"

her: "okay I'll come with you"

The guy with the glasses was pretty weird, trying to be seductive and cool but to me it came off as creepy and yeah.. really weird. The only thing that backed him up was him leaning back against a light-pole and probably the mindset of the girl that she wants to find some friends in Beijing since she is staying there for 6 months and had just arrived 2 weeks ago.

This is a 7 minutes walk to our hotel. So I walked in front and she followed. She began to talk about being afraid to cross the traffic.

We did some smalltalk.

After 2 minutes I took her hand and she replied and took mine. There was a bench so I said, "let's sit here for while"

I look down and it's wet, so I say "ahh fuck it.. it's wet".

Still holding hands, I stopped her and went in to kiss her. She looked at me and then was like "noo".

her: "I got a boyfriend"

me: "okay, I don't look for a girlfriend"

she didn't know how to respond to that

As we walk the tension was high. I diffuse the tension by some more smalltalk and joking to make her comfortable since it's very dark and almost no people on the streets. Silence again and she begins to ask me, "so what do you do back in Copenhagen?"

A bit of smalltalk. She said,
her: "so you are going back to your hotel room now where your mom is?"

me: "yep" rolling my eyes and looking like it's a burden

I ask her what she's doing tomorrow, she doesn't know, maybe some fitness. Asks me what my plans are, I don't know either, probably go to some cafés and stuff.

her: "well text me to hang out if you want"

I took it as a sign of interest.

Then I went in for the kiss again but she says no again but not in a serious way, so I saw it much like token resistance. (Everything I did was not in a serious manner)

me: "I don't understand why"

her: "because I got a boyfriend"

me: "and I told you I'm not looking for a girlfriend"

We walked and she walked with a faster pace than before. There were silence as we walked and she says, "

her: "there are so many girls you can kiss out there. you are a good-looking guy"

me: "I know"

her: "you know.." and looks at me a bit like "you are arrogant"

me: "yeah I've heard it a lot of times"

me: "there's no reason not to kiss me then"

and went in to kiss again.

but she avoided and said, "no" but not in a serious tone.

So I persisted a bit with,

"you make me sad! come here and give me a kiss" but to no help. The frame was set and I didn't know how to change that around. I tried to rely on persistency.

We were now entering our hotel and I tried one last time to kiss but no.

We enter the lobby, I tell her as I walk towards my side of the hotel,
me: "I'm going sad to bed and you are break my heart"

her: "sleep tight"

LESSON: Do not do anything on the girls terms. It makes you seem like a lower value guy.


I'll write a post about the sets I did this night when I have time tomorrow

(07-06-2013, 01:55 PM)LionMonkey Wrote: [ -> ]LESSON: Do not do anything on the girls terms. It makes you seem like a lower value guy.

Well, I'd like to put my two cents in, despite being completely inexperienced, I do know what I would not want: And that is to follow a girl around when you supposedly know you've got other options. Why you do that? Why not forget about her and move on? Sometimes this will force her to think "wow, guess I was wrong about that guy" and she'll try to get back in touch with you (this has actually happened to me before) So leave the door open, but move on. Be polite, don't tell her you're letting her have space or anything, just move on. If she reconsiders she'll contact you, trust me. If not, then you can stop wasting your time.

Also, forget what makes you SEEM like a lower value guy or how you APPEAR. Forget it. This is one of my own biggest problems and it pisses me off. Do things for your own reasons, and how people view you is of no consequence. If she thinks you're low value or whatever, who cares?

Also, why you spending so much time on this? Seems to me like you're out at all hours of the night for crying out loud! If it were me (and what I'm working towards) I'd just go about my day and meet women as I go through it. Something will happen the more you stay on your own course and draft women into your own reality.

It's not that complicated, and if I had your confidence, I'm sure I'd be there already, I just don't know why you're playing the game. Make the girls play yours dude.

Anyhow, that's my advice to you and the hope I have for myself all in one. Peace.

(07-06-2013, 06:23 PM)SargeMaximus Wrote: [ -> ]

(07-06-2013, 01:55 PM)LionMonkey Wrote: [ -> ]LESSON: Do not do anything on the girls terms. It makes you seem like a lower value guy.

Well, I'd like to put my two cents in, despite being completely inexperienced, I do know what I would not want: And that is to follow a girl around when you supposedly know you've got other options. Why you do that? Why not forget about her and move on? Sometimes this will force her to think "wow, guess I was wrong about that guy" and she'll try to get back in touch with you (this has actually happened to me before) So leave the door open, but move on. Be polite, don't tell her you're letting her have space or anything, just move on. If she reconsiders she'll contact you, trust me. If not, then you can stop wasting your time.

Also, forget what makes you SEEM like a lower value guy or how you APPEAR. Forget it. This is one of my own biggest problems and it pisses me off. Do things for your own reasons, and how people view you is of no consequence. If she thinks you're low value or whatever, who cares?

Also, why you spending so much time on this? Seems to me like you're out at all hours of the night for crying out loud! If it were me (and what I'm working towards) I'd just go about my day and meet women as I go through it. Something will happen the more you stay on your own course and draft women into your own reality.

It's not that complicated, and if I had your confidence, I'm sure I'd be there already, I just don't know why you're playing the game. Make the girls play yours dude.

Anyhow, that's my advice to you and the hope I have for myself all in one. Peace.

Hey Maximus. Appreciate the feedback!

The reason I've decided to do this is to train my skills to be able to have options with women and be able to meet a woman I find attractive anytime. I want to be able to choose between what girl I want to maybe settle down with in the future.

I used to see it one-way. Like if she doesn't like me, whatever but after a lots of these kind of interactions I began to dig deeper into it. I began to put myself more out there to see what kind of interactions would come out of it (to be more precise, it was more like 70% whatever and 30% digging deeper).

Here's what I think: if you think about it if you change your behavior because the girl seems like not liking you, then you've given your power away (obviously there are exceptions to this). You are doing things for your own reasons right? not for hers. Also since you are out not only to get with girls but also having fun (what else would you do that is more fun on a weekend night??).
Many girls really want to be led by a strong guy, whether consciously or unconsciously. They do not want to be responsible for most of the things they do, since then they will be labeled as a slut because of the societies standards.

I remember a year back when I was here in Beijing. I've changed a lot since. Throughout the year, almost all the people I've known and met again tells me that. It is because I'm challenging myself and putting myself in situations where it is pretty uncomfortable if you think about it.

So I'm gaining what I call, "reference experiences" which means that the more various experiences you get, the more skilled in the ability of social dynamics and female psychology you get. You get more "hard skin" and are less affected by social pressure, which is also an attractive trait. Just like practicing martial arts, an instrument or whatever hobby you have, except in this area you deal with people, emotions and lots of random factors when you practice.

As far as the blonde German girl goes - she is nexted. (I wrote the lesson because, to one self it may appear that it wasn't coming off as low value but to the outside world it can seem as beta. You gotta learn from your experiences) I did also write

Quote:I noticed her with her friend but began to talk to a German brunette instead. Thinking that I would not come on her terms but rather I came because I want to see what's up and that it's cool that she's there too.

So after a few minutes of some self-amusing with the German brunette I saw the blonde girl on the way downstairs with her friend.

I excused myself from the brunette and went over to the blonde.

It was coming from a place of being aware of what was going on and it was sincere. I came because I had my reasons to go out and the place was packed which was great since every other places was mostly empty. I had great fun with the brunette, who were also very into me but I did not find her attractive enough to go sexual with her.

Since the frame was set as me pursuing the blonde German girl after I tried to kiss her on the way to the hotel, I just played the role as much as I could.
When I look back now I see it must have looked like I was a bit needy but in the moment, I was not attached to the outcome. Just annoyed, found it a bit amusing and couldn't understand why she didn't want to be with such an awesome guy as me.

Well it's awesome you are doing this. I wish I had your confidence to get "reference points" as well. I hope to be there soon, but till then, I enjoy reading your journal. Keep us posted!

I keep reading your posts about being in Beijing but yet most of the sets you open seems to be German. You have me intrigued...

SargeMaximus Wrote:Well it's awesome you are doing this. I wish I had your confidence to get "reference points" as well. I hope to be there soon, but till then, I enjoy reading your journal. Keep us posted!

Trust me, I wasn't like this at all when I began my journey few years back. It has been quite a journey so far and I'm very happy that I took it since it has become really fun to meet women and talk to them. Also a lot of it is about yourself and self-development.

My reality has often been in limbo since last year because of the random things that would happen sometimes when I pushed my limits.

To make it clear: I'm not saying that going out to bars or clubs is necessary with this. I'm saying that meeting and talking to women, anywhere and anytime is (and learn from them), in order to have the "women" area successful.

(07-07-2013, 02:59 PM)InTheZone Wrote: [ -> ]I keep reading your posts about being in Beijing but yet most of the sets you open seems to be German. You have me intrigued...

If you really did take your time to read my journal, I wrote in DAY1 - DAYTIME that I didn't prefer Asian women. There are lots of expats and foreigners here at night in central Beijing.


Here's the sets from Saturday night:

At the first high-end bar before I went to the rooftop bar - THE TIME WAS 1:30AM

1. SET TWO WOMEN IN THEIR 30'S

There weren't many people in the bar. As I walked in and around the bar I saw two women sitting with wine glasses.

One blonde and one brunette. The blonde was very open and tried to qualify herself right from the get-go. As the brunette noticed this, she became more open and interrupted by asking questions.

It was a warmup set and I wasn't even in the mood to fuck. I removed myself after the interaction went stall.
( I met the brunette downstairs when I was looking for the rooftop bar. I said excuse me and saw it was her so I'm like heey! She looks at me, turn around and just walked away)

LESSON: take more risks for the sake of practice, even though you didn't feel like fucking. To push it further stay longer in the set and try to pull the blonde. Just for the reference...

2. SET INTERRUPTING 2 SALES WOMEN

1 minute after I saw a group of 2 younger girls. I went straight in. I was screening without me being conscious of it. First the blonde was most attentive, then the brunette.

The blonde said at a point that they were talking but I ignored it and kept talking.

They began to agree with my opinions but I still didn't feel like fucking. I didn't want to be a social burden so I removed myself and left the bar to search for the rooftop bar.

LESSON: Do not set expectations on what will happen with you and a girl that wants to meet in a bar with her friend(s). Just take whatever opportunities may present in the moment.

3. SET SHORT HAIRED GERMAN BRUNETTE

I found the rooftop bar and after looking around after the blonde for 1 minute, I saw a brunette and just began talking to her.

She was a bit closed in the beginning but as I put my personality out there she became very attentive and asked a lot of questions.

Had some great fun and self-amusement. I talked with her for 5 minutes and then I noticed the German blonde walking downstairs with her friend, so I excused myself and went down.

LESSON: Do not go after a girl that has asked you to meet at a bar, instead, let her notice you talking to other girls and let her interrupt to show if she really likes you. You aren't obligated to anything!

4. SET RE-APPROACH GERMAN BRUNETTE

I quickly looked around to see who would be interesting to talk to (after I removed myself from the group the German blonde introduced me to) and the short-haired brunette just happened to stand near me with two friends.

So I joined in and talked with her. I didn't feel sexual attraction to this girl though so I greeted her two friends. They seemed very blasé to me but were also very quiet. I tried to be socially normal in that situation so I didn't go for her friend which I was more sexually attracted to.

The brunette was like "take me" but I just couldn't do it! Eventually I left the group.

LESSON: Go for her hotter friend next time or leave and come back and talk with her friend.
Else, be less judgmental, just push the moment as far as you can. It gives you arousal to make out with a girl and even then, if you do not notice a hotter girl, try to pull her. It doesn't mean you have to fuck her...

5. SET RANDOM RUSSIAN AND BEGIAN WOMEN

THE TIME WAS NOW 3:30AM and there were even less attractive girls now. I wanted to not stay out of set, so I went over to two girls at a table, a bit away from the crowd.

I came in with little intention and the Russian became immediately distracted but the Belgian found it interesting basically because she had no choice.

Anyways the interaction quickly became stall because there wasn't any chemistry, so I left.

LESSON: Take more risks, like physicality or say edgy things and do stupid shit in order to not have a boring interaction. See where it leads to. You don't have chemistry anyways.

6. SET FUN 2 SPANISH GIRLS

I was standing in an elevated spot near the dancefloor and was thinking how cool it was that I could really enjoy and move to the music completely sober.
Suddenly this big guy stands beside me and intrude my space a bit. I stand my ground and then he signals me one of his newly bought beers.

me: "I don't drink"
he turns then he offer me his other beer, apparently he had just taken a sip of he former one.
me: "I don't drink"

He's like ohh.. And went away after a bit..

I walk around the bar one more time before leaving. I stand near the entrance and I see two cute Russian girls who had just arrived but I there were also two petite Spanish brunettes just near me.

me: "hello"
them: "hello"
me: "you are Germans"
them: "no Spanish"
me: "how do you say, come here dog in Spanish?"

They laughed/giggled a bit and told me how. Then the hotter one said that you do not say that to girls. They will think it is rude.

It was cute and I teased her a bit with it. I got more physical with her and she was into it but her friend dragged her away quickly.

LESSON: Be more leading in the moment of amping up he physicality and isolate her fast before her friend can drag her away. Or re-approach the girl and then drag her away!

7. SET 2 CUTE RUSSIAN GIRLS

Right after I went over to the Russian girls.

me: "hello!"
her: "hi.."
me: "why are you looking at me like this is weird?"
her: "sorry my English isn't very good"

I then talked to the hot one, she had a grasshopper figure in a rose form.

I commented on the grasshopper and said what kind of gift is that..

I tried to stay in the set for as long as I could. The interaction had went stall. Then I see the the hot one look over my shoulder smiling very inviting and I notice a tall blonde guy. It was he who gave her the grasshopper. I stood my ground. He said something but couldn't get to them because of me. Eventually he left.

The hot one began to be very blasé and moved a bit away from me and looked away. Her friend was still friendly but the energy was just gone, so after a while I excused myself and they looked happy at me when I did that.

Just a few minutes later I see the hot girl dance sexually with the tall guy and her friend with another tall guy. When I saw that, I thought "motherfucker.. how can some guys have it so easy.." another reason why building this skill-set is great.

LESSON: The time was around 4:00AM - I was thinking in my head, in the moment if I would fuck the hot Russian girl while I was talking to her.
Yes I would but there weren't much chemistry since I had to do all the talking.
They were both interested in the beginning but as I revealed many things about myself while at the same time, having a weak intention, they lost interest.

That was the last set of the night and I headed back to my hotel where I met the blonde German girl again...

Key note: intention and how you approach is crucial to how an interaction will go.. Also the later in the night, the more strong intention you can go in with without surprising the girl too much..

Main curiosity: How do you develop strong intent? How can it be few rare nights you feel very strong intent and not entertaining at all.. like a centered caveman and other nights your intent is weak but you have more fun with more girls?

DAY 3 & 4 - DAYTIME

It has been raining these past 2 days and I've stayed in my hotel most of the time. Have slept a lot which I despise since too much sleep makes you tired and unproductive.

On the positive end, I've begun doing 20 minutes of meditation, again, every night before going to bed. Also I've started reading out loud for 1 hour every day, putting as much passion and effort in it, to train my voice and also just better understanding of the language (amazing exercise!)…

I haven't even thought about trying to talk to the Chinese women here since most of them have poor english. It's just an excuse because I haven't even tried. Because of the habit of not talking to them, the very few hot ones I notice are also hard to just walk over and talk to.

I'm thinking that I should be less judgmental and just talk with whatever woman I happen to bump into. To get in the habit of talking to girls in the day.


DAY 5 - DAYTIME

It has been raining the whole day and it's still raining. It's 4:30PM right now and I've decided to go out just after this post to go shopping a new pair of stylish black shoes and a new wallet.

My intention is to use 30 minutes of the time when I'm out to actively meet women. Already missed 2 days. Gotta step it up!