11-17-2015, 03:21 PM
(11-17-2015, 10:03 AM)Natious Wrote:(11-16-2015, 11:14 PM)mat422 Wrote: But I feel like as the fear lifts I'm also more comfortable with allowing myself to feel all the things I hide away. The depression, the anxiety, the low self esteem, the perfectionism. I used to abuse myself for having these problems and thought it made me broken and weak. But the truth is the problems I face suck and that's it. They are just problems that need to be solved and I don't have to be ashamed of experiencing them. And having them doesn't make me any less of a person than anyone else. I believe most of these things are so hard to overcome because society is very unforgiving and there's still a huge stigma surrounding subjects like mental health. And that's a shame because when people are ashamed of their own problems they lash out or put down others who are willing to be more open.
Had a very a similar realization about a month ago and it sometimes gets pretty bad, I don't stuff them down as much as I used to. Mine seem to have some guilt and shame behind them too so I don't expect OF to get rid of them all. I'm sure it gets better for the both of us.
Yeah it's hard sometimes coming face to face with the things you've pushed down for so long. Especially when it's become such a strong habit. In my opinion men deal with this more than women and a lot of dysfunction arises out of it.
