Sean's AM Journal

[Sean]

I tried asking the girl from NYE out over facebook, and she didn't reply to my message, though I know she read it. The awesome part about this is that it only annoys me that she didn't reply: I don't care that we're not going out, and I don't feel "rejected" or that this reflects negatively on me at all.

It annoys me sometimes that the Internet and cell phones and IM and texting has made the concept of social grace and politeness with regard to communicating a complete mystery to most people, but in a situation like yours, it would be instant disqual, and I wouldn't bat an eye over it. Facebook is a place I have come to expect poor behavior from people with regards to the politeness of social grace. I would suggest talking on the phone or in person to asking someone out over FB, unless I had already established a conversation with them first.

I agree! The impersonal nature of these communication media has created a lack of consequences for poor behavior. I didn't want to start any kind of conversation on FB because of that: I wanted in-person communication. Failing that, a phone call. Without her number, I had no opportunity for that.

I'll still have fun that night, and part of the fun will be discovering who is sharing that fun with me.