Day 186,
As much as I talk about manipulators as though they drive the entire world, I believe that most people are unconscious participants in their own imprisonment. It comes out when they think thoughts like:
* "Maybe I should go back to school" (and take out big student loans)
* "Maybe we should have another kid" (in the context of a stale marriage)
* "I don't really love her, but I'm getting older and I won't have sex for a long time if I don't commit to marrying her"
* "I should get a new car with financing" (Just because)
* "We should renovate XYZ rooms" (and refinance our mortgage)
* "I'll move in with them to save on expenses" (early in a relationship)
* "A pre-nuptial agreement would be too uncomfortable of a discussion; we don't need one"
It goes beyond "taking more responsibility," but loading your back with heavy shackles and giving the key to someone else.
The deeper analysis is that these decisions fill our lives with superficial drama to avoid having to think about the deeper questions about life.
As much as I talk about manipulators as though they drive the entire world, I believe that most people are unconscious participants in their own imprisonment. It comes out when they think thoughts like:
* "Maybe I should go back to school" (and take out big student loans)
* "Maybe we should have another kid" (in the context of a stale marriage)
* "I don't really love her, but I'm getting older and I won't have sex for a long time if I don't commit to marrying her"
* "I should get a new car with financing" (Just because)
* "We should renovate XYZ rooms" (and refinance our mortgage)
* "I'll move in with them to save on expenses" (early in a relationship)
* "A pre-nuptial agreement would be too uncomfortable of a discussion; we don't need one"
It goes beyond "taking more responsibility," but loading your back with heavy shackles and giving the key to someone else.
The deeper analysis is that these decisions fill our lives with superficial drama to avoid having to think about the deeper questions about life.
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