EP E3 Journal

[Have at ye]

Nope, EvolvingPhoenix is right to approach this the way he is. This is not a singular occurrence, is a patterned behavior, has, I assume, been going on for years and shit like that is very damaging to those who are forced by circumstances to endure it.

I would assume the man does not feel unappreciated by his family, but he feels unappreciated in general (by *life*). He's taking it out on his family because he feels safe to do this to them (I mean, what are they going to do to him, right?).

I would also project an assumption he primarily acts out this way at home.

EvolvingPhoenix has found the courage to stand up for himself. The fact he is trying to approach it in a way that allows him to maintain a measure of self-respect does not mean he is unappreciative. Do not try to trick him into bending over and taking it like a good boy just because "thou shalt honor thy father".

THANK YOU. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS. You are SPOT ON in your assessment. This is behaviour of BOTH of my parents and because I am so low ranking in the family, they use me (and have always used me) as a scapegoat and as an emotional punching bag. I thank you for standing up for me, HaveAtYe. I VERY MUCH appreciate it.

No prob, glad to do it, actually! I've, like, 30+ years' worth of experience in a similar situation, and I know that people tend to automatically try to disbelieve it unless they've been through it themselves. Darndest thing, really.

You've been doing really good with E3 lately, and I will concur that UMS should be good for you as well. Don't sweat it overmuch, though, as more time with E3 is going to make the transition to UMS smoother and more pleasant. The emotional healing aspect of UMS has more of a "take no prisoners" approach.