EP E3 Journal

[Greenduck]

Sure they will, man. Just keep going.

Well that actually doesn't sound like a good therapist who can't help get you to work with your emotions toward it. Can't you change therapist still in your plan maybe?

This is my second therapist. The first wasn't much help either. At this point, we've gotten Vocational Rehabilitation Services to foot the rest of the bill after insurance, so, with money tight, we're reluctant to go for anyone new. These people have never been in a situation like mine and don't really have any real helpful advice to give. And pickins were slim to begin with. Fact is, this golden solution known as therapy really only works for the people lucky enough to get a good therapist, which, let's face it, must of us don't. And even if a therapist is good with one kind of client, they can be absolutely useless for another kind of client. I think if I were a juvenile delinquent in a gang, this current therapist would probably be way better equipped to handle that than he is to help me with my issues. Life is this thing where nobody really has all the answers and even 6-8 years of schooling can't really prepare you to help most peoples' problems. Academia takes a rather cold approach to the matter. I don't think most therapists are actually able to help most people. Hell, most just slap on a diagnostic label and then throw pills at the problem. A good therapist is worth more than their weight in gold, but those are few and far between and I don't think anybody I have access to qualifies. I don't even know what I should be looking for anyway. I picked this therapist, because I like the modalities he had listed on his psychology today profile. I remember my exfriend said when she was friend dumped herself, CBT worked for her, so I got a therapist who did that plus other things that looked promising. In practice however, there's much left to be desired. When my ex-friend was coldly friend dumped, she lucked out and got a really good therapist. I did not, and can't seem to find a good therapist. But everybody keeps telling me "get a therapist" like that'll solve my problems and when I tell them I have one, they say that I'm either not working with said therapist or need to get a different one. I don't think it occurs to most people that most therapists are just regular jackoffs with a degree who don't really know more than anybody else despite years of academic training, most aren't very great at their job, and most people don't have the pick of the litter when it comes to therapists. You work with what you can get and when you take cost, location, etc into account, my options are quite limited. Getting a therapist hasn't helped much. Getting another therapist hasn't helped much either. Hell, there are some therapists out there who've never had a good therapist. Therapy is one of those things that in theory, should be massively helpful to most people, but in actual practice is often unhelpful or sometimes even counterproductive.

Yes - well written. I therapist can't solely be someone who relies on their studies and models for helping people. It have to be someone who is emotionally mature, have faced their own problems, gotten out on the other side and is ready to help others. Otherwise it's just a parrot who rambles along with whatever they have learned in school without any practical substance. Well anyway, hope you find a person (therapist or not) who can support you in what you need.