05-27-2019, 07:06 AM
(05-26-2019, 01:06 PM)EvolvingPhoenix Wrote: Look I'm not saying to stay with this girl if the relationship doesn't work. Just promise me you won't judge her for not being where you are. If there is one thing I have learned from my experience at rock bottom, it's compassion for people who are at their lowest.
You're so right about the one with more power giving less of a damn. It still kills me how easilly my ex friend can do without me in her life. Whatever you do with this girl, please try to do it with love and compassion for her in your heart. And try not to judge her for being where she's at. She's only human.
Hmmm @EvolvingPhoenixI think you might have misunderstood a few things. I'm not going to be some heartless person in dealing with her or else I wouldn't have called her and talked to her about those things. I felt quite a few things while talking to her so its not like I'm being totally brutal with her. Point is and I know this for a fact that if I decided to stay with her it would be out of "pitty" at this point and I don't think I have to tell you how relationships based on "pitty" end. Oh I could still make that choice and it would be fine as long as I realize what the consequences will be and take responsibility for them. Its not simply about making the right or wrong decision (though that is still majorly important) but it is also important to "own" the consequences of that decision once it is made.
Another thing which I did notice which I do want to make sure you avoid. Don't fall for the societal lie of "don't judge". I want you to do something the next time you see someone that you know subscribes this type of thinking. See if what they do to someone they meet who constantly lies or treats them badly. You'll notice right away that they will judge that person as not a good person and refuse to hang around that person. The point of all this is that they don't fully follow their own rules. I find that those people generally like saying "don't judge" so they don't get called out on their own lack of progress or misdeeds but as soon as it suits them they will then go on to judge others because its to their benefit. Judging is an aspect of life. People need to judge in order to determine things like, "is this person trustworthy? Is he a rat? Do I want to associate with this person? What is their character like?". What people should really say is "Don't judge unfairly or without good knowledge of the situation or person involved". That would be a much better thing to say. I only bring this up since this is one of those lies society, mostly people not going anywhere in life, try to sell us. Hell, they might try to sell it to you so you too will just live and accept mediocre in your life.
Btw @EvolvingPhoenix I think there is a video that might help you out quite a bit and I was thinking about sending this to you for a while. I think @Benjamin will find this helpful as well since it touches on Slave morality, Master Morality and the top which is the self actualized individual. It does talk about these philosophical ideas in the concept of the stars game "knights of the Old republic 2" but it is very true in its assessments. I had seen this video like 2-3 months ago before I even got started on LTU and went through this change. Hence, I've been on different sides of what it talks about and verify that most of what he says is true. Its pretty long (like almost 2 hours if I remember correctly) but is worth it. So you might want to break it up into different sections if you can't watch it in one sitting. I would highly recommend others watch it as well if they are interested.
"I have no use of disciples. Let everyone be their own true follower" - Nietzsche