Have you no shame? - OGSF 5G | EPRHA 2.0

[SargeMaximus]

@Sarge: Seems to me like you were wanting ("thought I should make small talk"), and that wanting blocked you from doing something naturally. Then you might think "well if I dropped the wanting I wouldn't get anything / nothing would happen", and that just underlines that its all about wanting something. I think this is sort of the same thing that I was saying in my post about being in a state of resistance (in my case angry, sad, wanting to make mum feel better, wanting to get mad at her, wanting to resolve it in the optimal way. In your case wanting to make something happen, wanting to have great social skills, to be able to spike attraction anytime, anywhere, and *insert more wants*). One just can't notice the natural options that are right there. If we can get that resistance cleared up to something like acceptance and love in that moment, then we might just casually notice the right thing to do. But if it were me with the kind of cashier you described ("she wasn't even attractive it was just a weird vibe"), and I'm honest, the natural thing to do would probably be to make light funny remark or two and continue with my day, ie. nothing would happen. If I think of this through the "getting girls lens" then this is bad, because you're supposed to be at least honing your skills and pushing everything. But I wouldn't really want anything with that cashier, so why would I need to feel bad about not doing it? And even doing it would kinda make me feel bad at some level, because I'd be faking it, or putting on a persona.

Hmm, that doesn't really connect with me. It felt more like she wanted something from me and I felt that same "needy pull" you feel when a begger tries to get money from you on the street.

Let's not forget that other people can be needy too, not just us.

If there's anything I wanted, it was to have that experience go smoother, maybe transmute the energy to one of mutual enjoyment.

I had this same experience with women before where I feel them get super clingy to me and that freaks me out.

I don't have any answers, but I'm just getting really put off placing myself in those kinds of wanting scenarios. Its all just marketing. RSD is marketing. EDM is marketing. Cool cars and motorcycles are marketing. Success is marketing and sex is marketing. Love is marketing and any imagery we might aspire to is marketing. Especially beautiful women are marketing. I'm thinking there is good fun to be had in all those things, but the imagery/vision, and the desire to have that image and the lack that accompanies it, is marketing. But then how the **** am I supposed to break out and live outside that marketing when everyone else around me is fully engaged in it. But then what do I want so badly that I'd need those other people to accept my ideas about this? Do I already have it all.. and if I do, then now what? But its cool, I'm actually feeling really good just now.

Wish I could help you man, but part of me thinks if we didn't have these wantings we'd all just be meditating on mountain tops all day. I certainly could have back when I was into "The Power of Now" and let me tell you, it's great but, when you get to that point, life seems completely useless. Might as well just return to the source at that point, you know?

So my philosophy is: since we're here, and we ARE the embodiment of form, why not enjoy the world of forms? Sure you can know what you really are (i.e. Remain enlightened) but enjoying the world of forms becomes a video game.

Least, that's how it is to me.

So rather than trying to "get" something, I'm in fact trying to figure out the controls so to speak.

I don't expect you to understand, but if you REALLY want to be "free" from the world of form, practice the power of now every second of every day until you do not care if you die or not. Once you're there, you'll see what I mean.