Have you no shame? - OGSF 5G | EPRHA 2.0

[SargeMaximus]

The zen of life is recognizing what works, and accepting it.

It all depends on what you're after. There's no right or wrong, but some things take more effort. Living requires effort and energy, but only you can decide if it's "worth it" to you or not.

If the goal is being happier, why not just take a drug? It'd sure be more efficient.

My point was that, with both of your examples (having to be alpha, taking a drug), I got the impression that you're making it sound too clear cut. Sure, recognizing something that works and accepting gets you forward, but then you might realize this whole thing doesn't work and you accept that and scratch it and for for a while you're not sure what works, until you maybe find something that works, ... Having that crustal clear goal would help, but in my case it seems to goal is refined bit by bit through this process, so how could I accept what works for that end goal when its not even revealed to me yet?

Well that's definitely tougher then.

Throughout my journey in life and most apparently in pick up, I've had the same thing. What do I REALLY want? What if what I want conflicts with something else I want? Do I REALLY want that?

I just want to be happy, but I can be happy so many different ways, including just sitting at home alone, but do I want to sit at home alone? No. But if I have to go out, I'm not as happy, so what do I want? lol

It can be kind of maddening.

Tony Robbins says it comes down to values. If there is a conflict between your values, you will feel conflicted like this. The only answer is clarity. Find out what drives you and, most importantly, WHY. Once you figure out why, you can then focus on how and what, where I think most people focus on what and then how, leaving why as something that will be satisfied on it's own, when really, why is the birth of everything.

You don't go to the fridge and grab some food and then find out it satisfied your hunger.

You feel hungry (why) then you walk (how) to the fridge (what) and grab some food (more what lol)