eternitys_child tipped about Brene Brown HERE, and I looked at one of her TED videos, HERE. Its really great; she talks about shame and also the differences between men and women.
She lists an American study, where it was asked "What do women/men need to do/be to conform to female/male norms?". The top answers for men were:
-Emotional control
-Primacy of work
-Pursuit of status
-Violence
Interesting how well that matches with AM6's main bullet points, no? SM users report being ready for violence, which is seen as a good thing. "Good with the ladies" is missing, but I think that's either more specific for our community, or its included in "Pursuit of status". There's a good quote in the video by a man who talked to Brown about shame and the women in his life. Great talk.
Though personally I've never really identified with "Primacy of work"; I think its sometimes as bad as "Primacy of women". But I'm European, so it could a cultural difference. That's something that hasn't always resonated with me about AM either.
She lists an American study, where it was asked "What do women/men need to do/be to conform to female/male norms?". The top answers for men were:
-Emotional control
-Primacy of work
-Pursuit of status
-Violence
Interesting how well that matches with AM6's main bullet points, no? SM users report being ready for violence, which is seen as a good thing. "Good with the ladies" is missing, but I think that's either more specific for our community, or its included in "Pursuit of status". There's a good quote in the video by a man who talked to Brown about shame and the women in his life. Great talk.
Though personally I've never really identified with "Primacy of work"; I think its sometimes as bad as "Primacy of women". But I'm European, so it could a cultural difference. That's something that hasn't always resonated with me about AM either.
Thoughts, opinions and beliefs subject to change without prior notice.
