(11-15-2014, 10:58 PM)DanAmerson Wrote: [ -> ]Quote:If, after using Alpha Male and Sex Magnet you don’t achieve sex with beautiful women, you really just don’t want it.
Anyways, on changed thinking; when I see a girl, I ask myself whether or not I see myself having sex with her, instead of just basing it on "cuteness", or "hotness". There's a distinction, since this new view is about chemistry, since I want to 'feel' the desire, not logically want to have detached sex. So when I'd see a girl, I'm thinking "cute..", but then: "Would I really want to?", then often it's 'no'.
How convenient, that I just don't "want it badly enough"
I think you've just identified the problem. It maybe that you don't want it badly enough or you're scared of the reality of being a sex magnet.
You want something deeper than just meaningless sex with the next available girl. I think this conflicts with the programming in SM. I'm coming to believe that WM is the real foundation for SM so a run of AM>WM>SM will likely achieve your goals. As Shannon says if you are inexperienced with women then you should do WM first. If I were you I would complete SM then if there's still no results ask for a refund and put that to WM. Run AM again then WM. If deep down all you really want is a meaningful relationship then use an AYP instead of the magnets.
I would also forget doing these extra curricular exercises like PSTEC, tapping and just let the sub do what it does.. These issues should be solved by subliminal use as that's how they've been designed. You may be trying to fix things that aren't broken and causing conflicts with the subliminal's instructions.
Ricardo,
When I ask myself "would I really want to?", it's because before, I would be interested in a girl with a nice ass, but nothing else about her would interest. The night before writing that, I had sex with a woman I met a few months ago through 'cold approach'. A woman with whom I enjoy her company and her sex.
If I wanted a girl simply because of one feature on her body, that would be kind of low, especially if I don't care at all about the woman. I'm not trying to have sex with an ass. Or just with a nice set of tits. I'm trying to have sex with women, women who give me an overall visceral feeling of 'yes, I'd want to have sex with HER'.
I also want to make sure that I (very generally) enjoy the company of the woman; she respects herself enough to not damage her body through hard drugs, cigarettes and alcohol, she has some sense of humor, she has a somewhat pleasant disposition, that we have some chemistry and that she's feminine. Once again, I'm trying to have sex with a woman, not a fleshlight with legs.
Yesterday night, there were a handful of women who gave me that feeling, and Yahweh (euphemism) bless them for being made that way.
The "I don't want it badly enough" line was used in a snarky way, as I know that someone could use that line as a way to counter the absence of results:
"Hmm, the subs didn't work? Guess you didn't want it badly enough!"
It takes responsibility off the subliminal to work, and puts all the onus on the user to "want it badly enough".
I started SM because of that visceral feeling of inadequacy when I'd see plenty of beautiful women in my market when I was busking, and knowing that nothing could be done about it; if I approached, I'd often creep them out. So I really "wanted it", and I "want" to figure this out. I just feel like I'm under-equipped for certain situations.
Not sure what you meant at the end there. You seemed to have it all figured out saying this \/
(11-16-2014, 10:10 AM)DanAmerson Wrote: [ -> ]If I wanted a girl simply because of one feature on her body, that would be kind of low, especially if I don't care at all about the woman. I'm not trying to have sex with an ass. Or just with a nice set of tits. I'm trying to have sex with women, women who give me an overall visceral feeling of 'yes, I'd want to have sex with HER'.
I also want to make sure that I (very generally) enjoy the company of the woman; she respects herself enough to not damage her body through hard drugs, cigarettes and alcohol, she has some sense of humor, she has a somewhat pleasant disposition, that we have some chemistry and that she's feminine. Once again, I'm trying to have sex with a woman, not a fleshlight with legs.
Why not see them as fleshlight with legs that have personality? lol
I think you're still resisting the animal lust part of sex, wanting it to be "more". That takes time. Getting to know women is just as much about getting to know their body as their personality.
Stage 5, Day 21,
I took the day off of work to focus on this stats project, and then met as a group at 7pm until 2am to work on it . Progress has been gradual; we've done a couple of passes on it, and we've finalized about 1/4 of it. Tomorrow, we'll be able to knock off much more of it.
Going to bed.
I'm starting to get excited about the idea of playing a bunch of live shows, designing my set list, and building my fan base.
Stage 5, Day 22
I slept in big time, and made it to my one class.
After that, I got together with my group online and went from 3pm to 9pm. Now, the project is DONE, and my schedule will be opening up soon.
In the meantime, I found Cory Skyy's Magnetic Mindset; it tells you to write affirmations state them into the mirror, and to visualize what you want. It seems a bit far-fetched, but Ryan (a legend on this forum) was using it with Woman Magnet. Either way, I'll do some of the stuff for a while until my schedule clears up, and then I'll find a way to make it fit with PSTEC and fEFT.
But currently, I don't really push myself to go out, which should change before my finals. i.e I will make the effort to go out this Friday and Saturday.
Stage 5, Day 22
The project is submitted; low stress now.
I went to the clinic and do a TB test and for the flu shot. In waiting, there was this very socially uninhibited older woman, snapping pictures of people with her little 2''x2'' spy camera. She was taking pictures of people who were on their phone, because "they were using their phone to spy on people".
It quickly became the elephant in the waiting room. I was uncomfortable, but I eventually went over and calmly asked: "could I ask what you're doing, ma'am?", and then we talked briefly. I couldn't talk her out of it, but I snitched on her when I was in the office heh
I feel like I'm powerless relating to women. My inner dialogue: "I COULD talk to her, but it's not really going to matter, since she's not gonna want to hang with me. Meh, shouldn't even bother using the effort." That will change.
I've been doing Cory Skyy's Magnetic Mindset affirmations in a mirror, and tapping on the resistance I felt on these affirmations. So some shifting is happening.
And has, since I saw a woman at the water fountain that I really wanted to talk to, just the timing was off. She's in the class next to mine, at the same hours, same day. So I'll go to class early next week, and if I spot her, I'll talk to her.
I went to the gym for the first time in a bit, and it was positive. Ever since coming home and eating, I've had a dull stomach that's increased in intensity. Gonna sleep it off.
EDIT: I'm starting to go back and forth between AM6 and BASE. I don't t in the end, I can't lose; BASE would help me hit the ground running once I'm out of uni (which is in around 8-9 months), but it could mean that I could lose focus on uni and derail. AM6 will help me center and focus during this period, but may lead to less momentum related to money and financial (and time) independence.
Quick post:
Stomach ache went away overnight.
Not quite as emotionally strong today; I wasn't able to look people in the face today for more than half a second without having feelings well up.
Could be related to that dream I was having last night; tropical 'Far Cry' type of setting, with powerful people looking for me. I was hiding in the tall grass, and sometimes, they would burn it to smoke me out. I wound up sleeping for nearly 10 hours.
Stage 5, Day 23,
The forums are a bit slow today.
To add to my previous posts, I've been getting through my school.
Got home, did my BrainEv program, ate, went to the gym, got home, met with my friend to study for a bit. Now, I'm doing a whole lot of PSTEC and fEFT on "I need people to like me"; it's been about 3 hours for this one belief; it's a real bugger.
Got a date tomorrow, with the girl I've already had sex with. So that means.. I might be having sex again.
You mean she might be getting lucky tomorrow.
Stage 5, Day 24,
Had a lunch date planned with the girl from last week; she comes over, and I mention the couple of first dates I had gone on, and that nothing had happened (kissing, etc.), and that if she wanted to talk about it, she just has to bring it up. She said that it was fine, since we're casual.
We cuddled, and I made a suggestive comment, something like: "I'm not sure whether I want you before or after lunch". Shit got hot quickly. We had some pretty good sex. She probably came 2-3 times.
We went for lunch, a satisfying lunch at that. And then she drove me back home. We cuddled a bit, but I hot horny again, and she was down for a quickie. Ironically, that took the longest; I had difficulty getting off again, since I came only a few hours ago.
At one point, we stopped, and could have called it a day (she had class), but she climbed back on me, saying in frustration "I'm going to make you cum if it's the last thing I do!" Needless to say, we eventually figured it out.
After she left, I went to the clinic to follow up on a tuberculosis test from 2 days ago. Then I played guitar on campus for a half-hour, but I was so exhausted that I headed home.
I've been thinking more on my life, and that I need to get it sorted out. I figured out how much per month/per day I need to follow my dreams to the fullest (to my limited knowledge today), and it's lower than expected. I simply need the luster, the drive, and the mojo to push the steps to completion.
My sub plan is AM6 + BASE. After that, it will be January 2016. Maybe it'll be BASE or BAMM, but Shannon will have created something even more tempting by then.
This sub ends
Stage 5, Day 25,
I came to the realization: despite the fact that I may not be bedding supermodels, making millions, and building empires RIGHT NOW, I've got SO MUCH TIME! Especially as a man, I have at least 20-30 years to reach the "peak" of my prime, and I've heretofore put in 1 year of subliminal supplementation. I've been into self-help for a little over 4 years.
I've gone from (in other peoples' words on this forum) "nervy" and "anxious" to someone who appears confident and strong in 6 months, and I've removed virtually all neediness regarding women, allowing me to fully dedicate my focus on big projects. And with intelligent subliminal use, I can only be on the up, earning whatever money I choose, dating and sleeping with high-quality women, and being an interesting, dynamic man!
Another thing that I'm noticing is that I'm no longer asking people to spell things out for me; I'm doing things much more independently. I used to ask people to take steps for me, and I'm sure that alienated them. Before, I would consult the person for every step. Now, I receive an instruction, and I'll take many steps to follow it the best I could, and then I ask for clarifications.
I'm not really looking at women today. Seems that my need for sex is met, and I don't need any more right now. Give it another day.
A couple of girls in my class, girls I've seen day after day in my program, were giving me the wide-eye look, one of them had the twinkle in her eyes. Here we go!
I made a list of several gaps in my character, and some superficial life qualities I want to have (improve handwriting and write calligraphy, learn to salsa dance and lead, etc.) and that I intend on developing during 2015, with Alpha Male 6 and BASE cheering me on. I'll be developing a few daily rituals to take care of several of these goals, as well as the desired outcomes for my business and other things. I should write more and be more specific in the business arena as well.
I'll start the habits shortly after my exams are over. I'll also look into earning the money for Alpha Male 6 on the side as cash.
Stage 5, Day 26
Plays: 410 Hours
Seems that my sex drive has been on a brief vacation (since yesterday); it's pretty nice, as my focus isn't being pulled a thousand different directions. Haven't watched porn in probably 5 weeks, and haven't fapped since my date on Thursday. No real urge to, either.
I re-watched 'Wolf of Wall Street', and there were plenty of naked beauties, and though they were nice to look at, I had no real urges come up.
Despite this sort of drive, I was able to be productive after work. During work, I was able to put myself in a very happy, upbeat place. Got new headphones that should work for a long time; it not, I have a 3 year warranty. Still getting used to the feel; it also makes the trickling stream harder to play alongside other things, as it tends to overpower the tracks; ultrasonic will be making an appearance.
The girl that was selling them to me was being very fidgety and accommodating; maybe she liked me, but was nervous. I tend to forget that I sometimes have that ability, as I don't feel the nervousness from them (if that's what they're doing). I mentioned that her phone was very big (a huge block sticking out of her pocket), and she kept trying to get me to try it out and play around with it, even though her screensaver and the page it opened up on embarrassed her.
'Wolf of Wall Street' made me want to become an ultra millionaire (30+ mil), though that will take at least a BIT of time, effort, and focus. Having that amount seems a bit absurd, because if I add up all the stuff I want, I probably won't even come close. We'll see what happens when I run BAMM a few times in the near future.
Looking forward to Stage 6!
