Ok guys I need some wisdom and advice.
Been flirting with a girl who I'm friends with lately and we've been getting to know each other and I know that she's had boyfriends before and that hasn't really bothered me. Recently she told me that she was friends with benefits with her best friend who she's known for many years and who is still a large part of her life. Visits her house everyday and when he does they spend time alone in her room.
I don't know why but hearing those things instantly killed all attraction towards her. I started feeling physical responses, I felt my dick shrink and heart sink. Sort of like a fight or flight response. In a girl I find sexual experience unattractive especially wild intense ones. If I were to have an opportunity to get sexual with this girl I would probably be too affected to even get hard after knowing those things. It has happened before with my previous girlfriend.
Basically what I really need is some help analyzing my response. What is this feeling, what caused it, why I experience this. How do I overcome this, whether it be through the use of subs or something else. That response that I had to her is one of the most crucial things for me to overcome. I'm at an age where sexual experience is more common than not among people my age and even among high schoolers. I was a late bloomer, probably still haven't fully bloomed yet and I'm 24.
I'm going to try to write as much as I possibly can about how I felt and my thoughts when it happened so you guys Can better understand what I experienced.
-thought of her being fwb with someone caused me to freeze up mentally and physically
-experienced a fight or flight response at the though of a sexual situation
-mind did not function normally slightly stunned, tunnel vision, fixated on the negative thought
-experienced a noticeable reaction in my penis where it just shrank as if I jumped in cold water
-instantly Re evaluated her in my mind and am no longer interested
-felt slightly insecure because she described her friend as being gorgeous and fit
-also insecure because I never had those type of experience when I was in my teens
- was disappointed that she didn't match my expectations
-slightly depressed and feeling that I won't ever find the kind of person I need to so I won't experience that reaction.
In my opinion the reaction I experienced told me that I no longer felt safe,and I continue to feel unsafe around sexually experienced women. For me sex requires an emotional connection, and in my mind knowing a girl had sex with another means that she had that emotional connection with someone else and that just ruins it for me. I'm plagued by thoughts of "am i good enough" "is she thinking of someone else" "who did she learn this from" "Did she do this with him too" messed up I know, but I'm trying to fix it and move past it.
I have pretty much given up hope on finding the right kind of girl, so I'm focusing on changing myself to be able to handle this. I feel that this is a truly deep rooted reaction and a sub will most likely take very long to clear this. So I'm open to all avenues, subs, tapping etc. I just want help
P.S please tell me there is a sub that can help(please Hurry OF5G)?
Been flirting with a girl who I'm friends with lately and we've been getting to know each other and I know that she's had boyfriends before and that hasn't really bothered me. Recently she told me that she was friends with benefits with her best friend who she's known for many years and who is still a large part of her life. Visits her house everyday and when he does they spend time alone in her room.
I don't know why but hearing those things instantly killed all attraction towards her. I started feeling physical responses, I felt my dick shrink and heart sink. Sort of like a fight or flight response. In a girl I find sexual experience unattractive especially wild intense ones. If I were to have an opportunity to get sexual with this girl I would probably be too affected to even get hard after knowing those things. It has happened before with my previous girlfriend.
Basically what I really need is some help analyzing my response. What is this feeling, what caused it, why I experience this. How do I overcome this, whether it be through the use of subs or something else. That response that I had to her is one of the most crucial things for me to overcome. I'm at an age where sexual experience is more common than not among people my age and even among high schoolers. I was a late bloomer, probably still haven't fully bloomed yet and I'm 24.
I'm going to try to write as much as I possibly can about how I felt and my thoughts when it happened so you guys Can better understand what I experienced.
-thought of her being fwb with someone caused me to freeze up mentally and physically
-experienced a fight or flight response at the though of a sexual situation
-mind did not function normally slightly stunned, tunnel vision, fixated on the negative thought
-experienced a noticeable reaction in my penis where it just shrank as if I jumped in cold water
-instantly Re evaluated her in my mind and am no longer interested
-felt slightly insecure because she described her friend as being gorgeous and fit
-also insecure because I never had those type of experience when I was in my teens
- was disappointed that she didn't match my expectations
-slightly depressed and feeling that I won't ever find the kind of person I need to so I won't experience that reaction.
In my opinion the reaction I experienced told me that I no longer felt safe,and I continue to feel unsafe around sexually experienced women. For me sex requires an emotional connection, and in my mind knowing a girl had sex with another means that she had that emotional connection with someone else and that just ruins it for me. I'm plagued by thoughts of "am i good enough" "is she thinking of someone else" "who did she learn this from" "Did she do this with him too" messed up I know, but I'm trying to fix it and move past it.
I have pretty much given up hope on finding the right kind of girl, so I'm focusing on changing myself to be able to handle this. I feel that this is a truly deep rooted reaction and a sub will most likely take very long to clear this. So I'm open to all avenues, subs, tapping etc. I just want help
P.S please tell me there is a sub that can help(please Hurry OF5G)?
