I don't believe there is any "better" place to come from. Let's take an example. There is a guy, Joe. Now Joe wants to be a boxer. He sits and asks himself, "Why do I want to be a boxer?", and he comes to a conclusion that it is fear, "Because I am afraid I'll get my ass whooped". Now Joe thinks, "Okay, let's get rid of fear." Joe gets rid of the fear, and it turns out, he isn't that interested in boxing, after all. Cool. That's Case I.
Now, Case II. He sits and asks himself, "Why do I want to be a boxer?" After few minutes, he says, "F*ck this shit. I am gonna knock 'em out." He trains, and well, becomes a boxer. If he is honest with himself, he observes that he is still afraid! And he wonders why. He trains harder, but his fear just doesn't get rid of him. Once again, if he is honest with himself, he recognizes the fear and works on overcoming it. Now, he knows how to box, and is free of fear.
Most importantly, he goes through a journey. A journey that he might have never experienced if he was stuck on finding the "better" place to come from. I'd rather be Case II.
Moral of the story: Harness your fears, anger, insecurities, whatever "negative" there is, to achieve your goals. And worry about them once you have achieved your goal.
Now, Case II. He sits and asks himself, "Why do I want to be a boxer?" After few minutes, he says, "F*ck this shit. I am gonna knock 'em out." He trains, and well, becomes a boxer. If he is honest with himself, he observes that he is still afraid! And he wonders why. He trains harder, but his fear just doesn't get rid of him. Once again, if he is honest with himself, he recognizes the fear and works on overcoming it. Now, he knows how to box, and is free of fear.
Most importantly, he goes through a journey. A journey that he might have never experienced if he was stuck on finding the "better" place to come from. I'd rather be Case II.
Moral of the story: Harness your fears, anger, insecurities, whatever "negative" there is, to achieve your goals. And worry about them once you have achieved your goal.