06-14-2020, 06:33 PM
(06-14-2020, 02:57 PM)Fluffy Wrote: @Shannon
How much is wanting to be in a monogamous relationship based in fear?
My fear is that people choose a monogamous relationship based on unconscious fear, thus when in a LTR I feel like if me or my partner had no fear, we wouldn't choose a monogamous relationship. This leads me to feel that deep down my partner would prefer causal sex, open relationships, and the whole monogamous thing is just really based on a lie.
I don't consiously think this all the time, but when I think about this, I can feel into it. A part of me thinks I could be wrong, so I don't let it complelty take over me, but then I would hate to think what I have with my girlfriend is based on a lie, even if consiously we are not aware of it or even think it.
It would be interesting to hear your thoughts, thanks.
It's going to depend on the people involved, their personalities, their upbringings, their beliefs, their needs, their experiences, their interpretations and responses to those experiences, etc. etc. For some people there';s a lot of fear going on. For others, maybe very little or none.
Monogamy is desirable for some people and not so much for others.
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