1) So today I was having a sandwich made and the woman making it was avoiding looking at me. I gave her a compliment and she gave me a bland reply. Then I got to the cashier. She didn't look at me. I made a comment or two. She ignored it. Was she so rigidly stuck in doing her job that she didn't even hear me? So I thought about what SargeMaximus said about just go up and talk to women who are ignoring or avoiding me (that's a paraphrase of the general idea, I think). So I did. I waited until she was refilling the condiment station and I decided I needed some condiments.
I asked her about an employee I hadn't seen for awhile. She said she knew who he was and how he was working elsewhere etc. She kept talking and was engaged in that she kept talking with me until I was done talking with her... But the whole conversation she couldn't stand still. She seemed to vacillate between looking at me and doing her job of refilling. There was no one around to judge her or get her into trouble. She looked nervous! Wide eyes. Forced stiff smile. A rigid hahaha of laughter once or twice.
She didn't look like she was sexually aroused or attracted, she looked nervous-scared-freaked out-fearful. I couldn't understand why. I was relaxed and calm. Slight genuine smile. Calm voice. The only message I was sending was “I feel at home here and curious about your fellow employee”.
2) I've had another “magnet” experience perhaps. I was waiting in line at a grocery story and a woman who works there who has checked me out a few times in the past went to walk back to her station and ended up walking in my line and almost ran into me. Before she almost ran into me, she said to her self “Ooops. Wrong way.” and she turned around and walked in the correct direction to her station.
Your input would be appreciated, Shannon...
I asked her about an employee I hadn't seen for awhile. She said she knew who he was and how he was working elsewhere etc. She kept talking and was engaged in that she kept talking with me until I was done talking with her... But the whole conversation she couldn't stand still. She seemed to vacillate between looking at me and doing her job of refilling. There was no one around to judge her or get her into trouble. She looked nervous! Wide eyes. Forced stiff smile. A rigid hahaha of laughter once or twice.
She didn't look like she was sexually aroused or attracted, she looked nervous-scared-freaked out-fearful. I couldn't understand why. I was relaxed and calm. Slight genuine smile. Calm voice. The only message I was sending was “I feel at home here and curious about your fellow employee”.
2) I've had another “magnet” experience perhaps. I was waiting in line at a grocery story and a woman who works there who has checked me out a few times in the past went to walk back to her station and ended up walking in my line and almost ran into me. Before she almost ran into me, she said to her self “Ooops. Wrong way.” and she turned around and walked in the correct direction to her station.
Your input would be appreciated, Shannon...
