04-20-2015, 10:44 PM
(04-20-2015, 08:45 PM)Shannon Wrote: There's a difference between making a mistake and understanding that because you feel guilt, and making a mistake and understanding that because you're thinking and using your brain. In no case do you ever need guilt, shame or fear if you are engaging your brain. CatMan, my aim actually is to remove those things completely. They are at best training wheels that allow people to skate by without having to grow up, be mature and think. At worst, they are destroyers of people, groups, cultures and even civilizations. We have the capacity to think, and if we stop being lazy and afraid to use these capacities we have, we can toss the training wheels to the side and truly live, achieve and experience life unlike anything we have experienced before.
Let me be perfectly clear when I say that I believe that there is no instance where thinking is not as good or better than guilt, shame or fear as a remedy for whatever you were trying to use guilt, shame and fear to accomplish. Using a negative to try to achieve a positive is never going to work out in the end, because the negative will always at least negate the positive. You always damage yourself by allowing guilt, shame and/or fear into your life. But you never have to damage yourself by THINKING and USING YOUR BRAIN instead!
I agree exactly with what you are saying. I was trying to throw him a bone somewhat as I understood what he was trying to say. It seemed to me the discussion had an issue with connotations of words, which I tried to address. The spirit of his words seemed good, it was his perception of GSF and the removal of such that seemed off and I tried to help. Of course, using a negative emotion to achieve a positive outcome doesn't make sense and would fail. I was just trying to get him to see the reasoning by creating a bridge from his viewpoint by trying to reframe it, in the hopes he would change his mind about what he felt.
I absolutely know your intentions in the subs are to foster an emotionally healthy individual.