06-14-2020, 02:57 PM
@Shannon
How much is wanting to be in a monogamous relationship based in fear?
My fear is that people choose a monogamous relationship based on unconscious fear, thus when in a LTR I feel like if me or my partner had no fear, we wouldn't choose a monogamous relationship. This leads me to feel that deep down my partner would prefer causal sex, open relationships, and the whole monogamous thing is just really based on a lie.
I don't consiously think this all the time, but when I think about this, I can feel into it. A part of me thinks I could be wrong, so I don't let it complelty take over me, but then I would hate to think what I have with my girlfriend is based on a lie, even if consiously we are not aware of it or even think it.
It would be interesting to hear your thoughts, thanks.
How much is wanting to be in a monogamous relationship based in fear?
My fear is that people choose a monogamous relationship based on unconscious fear, thus when in a LTR I feel like if me or my partner had no fear, we wouldn't choose a monogamous relationship. This leads me to feel that deep down my partner would prefer causal sex, open relationships, and the whole monogamous thing is just really based on a lie.
I don't consiously think this all the time, but when I think about this, I can feel into it. A part of me thinks I could be wrong, so I don't let it complelty take over me, but then I would hate to think what I have with my girlfriend is based on a lie, even if consiously we are not aware of it or even think it.
It would be interesting to hear your thoughts, thanks.