Updating recommended books list?

[apollolux]

http://subliminal-talk.com/thread-4807-p...l#pid99612

You were speaking Male when she was listening for Female. Different languages. It's like speaking French to an Icelander and wondering why they don't understand. Only, men and women usually don;t even know they don't speak the same language. Your job is to learn Female-ese.

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Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: Practical Guide for Improving Communication

This is certainly where I first read about "female-ese" vs. "male-ese" but I think a lot of the practical aspects of it (the "writing a letter to get your feelings out" especially) are or at least seem outdated.