^^Slept on it. I thought it might be fear of failure again, but no, I'm pretty sure what was holding me back yesterday was avoiding messiness. (And a slight hang over.) I've been going for a bit of a James Bond thing again lately and it was just very out of place in those clubs yesterday. Also, I was looking for signals of attraction too much before approaching. I got those at the beginning of a night (one shorter girl dropped her jaw a bit when she saw me lol), but then things got crowded, boozy and messy. I didn't see a good example from the other guys around, but something like RSDAlex game would've been more appropriate. Or what Julien called "drunken game" at some point: just walk around only concentrating on the people within a 1-2m circle of you and talking to them, no getting an overall picture of the room at all. Like you were drunk and had impaired vision.
Damn, that one very good connection I had on Friday.. I think she might've thought I'm not interested in her. It was just flowing so well and we we're talking about socializing and I mentioned how can get kinda weird when I'm somewhere and I approach some girl just to talk to them (pass the time) when I don't want to hit on them. Then a little later when she was replying I think she said "..like I'm not hitting on you right now, its just like let's see what happens..". Then a while later still she just suddenly said she's going dancing with her friends and left a bit out of the blue. My friend said he was really surprised because he'd been watching her reactions to me a bit and said she seemed really into it. So I guess I should remember to express/verbalize my interest to her even if I get carried on into the conversation ("its ok to hit on me, I like you"). She was a psych major, so we got to talking about intro/extroversion, fears and so on. I remember demonstrating and talking about picking my nose (talking about talking about stupid subjects). So Bond of me. Could be that my threat level was a bit lower due starting NG this week. But I'm just adjusting and learning. Note to self: If in doubt, look at boobs.
Ok, off to other stuff.
Damn, that one very good connection I had on Friday.. I think she might've thought I'm not interested in her. It was just flowing so well and we we're talking about socializing and I mentioned how can get kinda weird when I'm somewhere and I approach some girl just to talk to them (pass the time) when I don't want to hit on them. Then a little later when she was replying I think she said "..like I'm not hitting on you right now, its just like let's see what happens..". Then a while later still she just suddenly said she's going dancing with her friends and left a bit out of the blue. My friend said he was really surprised because he'd been watching her reactions to me a bit and said she seemed really into it. So I guess I should remember to express/verbalize my interest to her even if I get carried on into the conversation ("its ok to hit on me, I like you"). She was a psych major, so we got to talking about intro/extroversion, fears and so on. I remember demonstrating and talking about picking my nose (talking about talking about stupid subjects). So Bond of me. Could be that my threat level was a bit lower due starting NG this week. But I'm just adjusting and learning. Note to self: If in doubt, look at boobs.
Ok, off to other stuff.
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