11-16-2014, 01:43 PM
May i suggest something:
Those negative feelings/self talk happen to me alot. I tend to instigate them. I have had a relationship, but it ended badly, she was semi-attractive and well... married. (supposedly her husband beat her or was abusive)
I broke it off because I didnt want karma coming back at me, when I someday would have a wife.
I look back and feel that I was taking the scraps of other men. Pretty shi*** if you ask me.
I would put myself through depression and pain on purpose. For example:
My co-worker has a smoking-hot girlfriend. I got jealous and on that friday, I came home and beat myself up about it- how I was useless, and no woman would want me unless I was dead or something to that affect.
Its funny when I think about it. Negative emotions, just like positive ones reinforce behaviors. When you hear a kid screaming and you want to slap him and say "shut up" you are reinforcing that behavior with a negative emotion.
The most powerful thing you can do is walk away.
What I find now to help me kill those negative habits of wishing about women and such (for an example) is to go to the gym, or better yet (if I had one)- beat the crap out of a punching bag.
It is my opinion you should release those emotions thoughts of yours by doing something (not entertainment) and not to let them just well up inside of you.
2cents
-Leo
Those negative feelings/self talk happen to me alot. I tend to instigate them. I have had a relationship, but it ended badly, she was semi-attractive and well... married. (supposedly her husband beat her or was abusive)
I broke it off because I didnt want karma coming back at me, when I someday would have a wife.
I look back and feel that I was taking the scraps of other men. Pretty shi*** if you ask me.
I would put myself through depression and pain on purpose. For example:
My co-worker has a smoking-hot girlfriend. I got jealous and on that friday, I came home and beat myself up about it- how I was useless, and no woman would want me unless I was dead or something to that affect.
Its funny when I think about it. Negative emotions, just like positive ones reinforce behaviors. When you hear a kid screaming and you want to slap him and say "shut up" you are reinforcing that behavior with a negative emotion.
The most powerful thing you can do is walk away.
What I find now to help me kill those negative habits of wishing about women and such (for an example) is to go to the gym, or better yet (if I had one)- beat the crap out of a punching bag.
It is my opinion you should release those emotions thoughts of yours by doing something (not entertainment) and not to let them just well up inside of you.
2cents
-Leo
