Stage 1, Day 7. First time out with SM3 yesterday. The attraction isn't anything crazy so I'd notice it, but 2 things are definitely starting to work: OAA and indifference/lack of neediness.
I already felt OAA starting to work towards the end of AM6, but approaching is getting perrrty easy once I set myself to that mode. Its like I don't have to psyche myself anymore.. when I get a smile or see a good spot, I just sort of walk over to say hi to my friends. Now, I have done quite a bit of pstec/f-eft on this, so it must help, but there's definitely something more than that to it, too.
Btw, I found it really helpful to run pstec on an imagined scenario of that moment right after a convo goes bad. I don't mind if a girl doesn't like me (almost never happens anyway), but what bugs/bugged me is that short moment when you have to leave and walk away from the girls. Its kind of a mix of admitting defeat, retreating, obeying their orders, public fail, loss of social proof, having to find something else to do, etc. I found it really pushed my buttons if I imagined one of the girls "giving me permission" to leave ("ok you can go now"). Got that from an 8 to a 1, though I'll do it again later to make sure.
Then the indifference.. I was on the dance floor for almost half of the night because I seemed to really enjoy it. You know when you're really into the dancing, the girls kind of gravitate to dance near you and then after a while you get horny and they leave? We'll, they didn't leave this time because I was perfectly comfortable with them. I was just dancing away and at some point I was just surrounded by only girls pressing into me from all sides, from different groups.. I didn't do anything about it, just enjoyed the attention and vibe of it all. There was this one group in particular, where one of the girls really started tossing her hair back at me and stepping back into me.. I was smiling and rolling my eyes to myself, getting her hair out of my stubble, when I noticed 4 of the other girls in that group had these slight smiles and were all lined up, almost forgetting to dance, looking at me & their friend trying to get my attention. Had this short knowing eye contact with the most beautiful one before going back to dancing. Obviously in the future I want to be able to DO something without breaking that good vibe, but I had fun for now.
I also saw this girl I used to be FB's with a while back.. I've actually been thinking about her, not in a relationship kind of sense, but she's just uber sexy to me and we had such a good time. She's seeing someone atm so we can't really do anything about it now. I don't give a shit about the dude (this angry- and possessive-looking fellow), but I know she doesn't want to cheat and she'd just feel bad about it. There are other girls. Anyway, we talked for a few minutes and the tension was unbelievable.. No idea what was said, but I think we both blew out these "wheeewh.. wow" sighs at different times.
I already felt OAA starting to work towards the end of AM6, but approaching is getting perrrty easy once I set myself to that mode. Its like I don't have to psyche myself anymore.. when I get a smile or see a good spot, I just sort of walk over to say hi to my friends. Now, I have done quite a bit of pstec/f-eft on this, so it must help, but there's definitely something more than that to it, too.
Btw, I found it really helpful to run pstec on an imagined scenario of that moment right after a convo goes bad. I don't mind if a girl doesn't like me (almost never happens anyway), but what bugs/bugged me is that short moment when you have to leave and walk away from the girls. Its kind of a mix of admitting defeat, retreating, obeying their orders, public fail, loss of social proof, having to find something else to do, etc. I found it really pushed my buttons if I imagined one of the girls "giving me permission" to leave ("ok you can go now"). Got that from an 8 to a 1, though I'll do it again later to make sure.
Then the indifference.. I was on the dance floor for almost half of the night because I seemed to really enjoy it. You know when you're really into the dancing, the girls kind of gravitate to dance near you and then after a while you get horny and they leave? We'll, they didn't leave this time because I was perfectly comfortable with them. I was just dancing away and at some point I was just surrounded by only girls pressing into me from all sides, from different groups.. I didn't do anything about it, just enjoyed the attention and vibe of it all. There was this one group in particular, where one of the girls really started tossing her hair back at me and stepping back into me.. I was smiling and rolling my eyes to myself, getting her hair out of my stubble, when I noticed 4 of the other girls in that group had these slight smiles and were all lined up, almost forgetting to dance, looking at me & their friend trying to get my attention. Had this short knowing eye contact with the most beautiful one before going back to dancing. Obviously in the future I want to be able to DO something without breaking that good vibe, but I had fun for now.
I also saw this girl I used to be FB's with a while back.. I've actually been thinking about her, not in a relationship kind of sense, but she's just uber sexy to me and we had such a good time. She's seeing someone atm so we can't really do anything about it now. I don't give a shit about the dude (this angry- and possessive-looking fellow), but I know she doesn't want to cheat and she'd just feel bad about it. There are other girls. Anyway, we talked for a few minutes and the tension was unbelievable.. No idea what was said, but I think we both blew out these "wheeewh.. wow" sighs at different times.
Thoughts, opinions and beliefs subject to change without prior notice.
