11-20-2012, 03:46 PM
I agree, Yuri: One cannot be nice to an abusive or parasitic person because they see it as weakness or an opportunity.
I chose this for several reasons:
1. I have to deal with her for 17.5 more years.
2. I'm willing to allow her baby steps and attenuate the behavior.
3. I specifically said it was likely I would still say no to any of her reqeusts for a favor. If she wants me to do something for her, she's got to be someone I can deal with, which has worked well with other exes with whom I must deal.
(11-20-2012, 03:28 PM)Shannon Wrote: You have her an out. "If you wait a while, I'll forget, and you can do it again." Not good. You want her to stop, not slow down.
I chose this for several reasons:
1. I have to deal with her for 17.5 more years.
2. I'm willing to allow her baby steps and attenuate the behavior.
3. I specifically said it was likely I would still say no to any of her reqeusts for a favor. If she wants me to do something for her, she's got to be someone I can deal with, which has worked well with other exes with whom I must deal.
Fear is a liar.
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self. -- Ernest Hemingway
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self. -- Ernest Hemingway
