Path to Greatness - Journal

[Javier Gerardo]

AM 3G? AM hasn't been built in 3G since... 2009 I think? 2010 and 2011 were 4G, just as 5.0 is. It sounds like you would benefit from running OF and then doing AM again, or possibly WM.

The one I have is the Alpha Male 2010 man. It was the version before the Alpha Male 2011. It's the one you cannot run when there are females around. I thought that was on 3G. Sorry about that.
I don't want to play it again because I'm staying at my parent's house and me and my sister is sleeping on the same room.
Anyway, yeah as soon as I have the money for AM Version 5.0 I will get it. This is why I'm still on ASC 5G because I still don't have enough money for it.
I'm currently on the look for a job and trying my best to get one that suits me well. So I have high hopes that I can finally afford it.

Just to clarify, I'm not saying that if you're going to get into a competition, it's better to get into one with a friend. I'm saying it's better not to get into a competition at all, friend or otherwise. Here's why.

When you are competing with someone else for a woman, you are making two mistakes. The first mistake is that you are putting her value above your own. The second mistake is that you are competing for her.

A man who has high value has options. Always. A man who has high value never needs to compete. In fact a truly high value man will not compete for the attention or affection of a woman. His point of view is, "If I am interested, and she wants to be with me, she'll act like it." For this man, a woman is with him because SHE wants to be... not because he needs her to be.

When a man competes for a woman, he is saying with his actions that she has greater value than he does, because it is he who must compete for her. If he was of higher value, she would be competing for him. What woman wants a man of lower value? I'll tell you two kinds. Broken women, and sexist women. And they are frequently one and the same. She wants a man of lower value so she can dominate and control him. If that's what you want, also, by all means. But if you want to have a woman's respect, you will never allow her to dominate or control you.

Competing for a woman is what betas and lower value males do, because they don't have (or don't think they have) options. Without options, every woman becomes much more valuable than his self assessment of value, and he assumes the submissive low value role.

Competing for a woman isn't just a sign of low value and low self esteem, it's a sign of insecurity. If you must compete for her, she does not really value you, and you as a strong man should have the attitude that - again - if she wants to be with you, she'll act like it. If she doesn't... walk away. You are better than that. You have more value than that. And you have options, which are obviously better than she is at that point.

So competing for a woman is a waste of your time and energy, time and energy that could be spent locating and enjoying the company of a woman who genuinely wants to be with you.

Never compete for a woman. Doing so only devalues you and tells her she can play around, and favorites. It says to her that you are weak and insecure, so she can play around and instead of walking away because you don't put up with crap like that, you'll compete for her out of desperation. And that desperation is probably why she's looking at other guys in the first place. She sees you're weak and desperate and wants a man who isn't.

I also agree on that the best way to a competition with women is to never get into competition at all. I just pointed out competition in cases wherein its inevitable. Like there were cases when a girl at a club flirts and goes for you even in front of her boyfriend. There were also a time when a girlfriend or FWB (either way I don't care) of one of my friends wanted to go with me because they had a fight with each other. In cases like these I give respect to her boyfriend and ignore her advances.

My friends have applauded me for being a guy who avoids competition in regards to women. For instance when at a venue me and my friend both like a certain girl, I tend to give in and look for other girls instead that I also want. Now when I think of about this, I also know that as an Alpha Male I should be able to decide what I want and go for it. So I think that when I like a girl I should go for it and not think whether my friends like her also or not. But what do you think dude? Do I misinterpret what you mean?

In the end, I really want to get the "abundance mentality" in my head. I don't want to be a needy guy.

Of course my current thinking is way opposite of what I used to. Where I live the culture of courting girls is still very much active. So when I was young I quickly adapted the idea that if you want a girl you need to win her either through giving her flowers, doing deeds for her or slaying the dragon protecting her castle (yeah I played a lot of video games when I was a kid) .