Sean's AM Journal

[Sean]

I am unfamiliar with the term "hamster bait", please enlighten me.

To quote Dalrock*:

The rationalization hamster is an analogy for the thought processes used by women to turn bad behavior and bad decisions into acceptable ones to herself and her friends. When a woman makes a bad decision, the hamster spins in its wheel (the woman’s thinking) and creates some type of acceptable reasons for that bad decision. The crazier the decision, the faster the hamster must spin in order to successfully rationalize away the insanity.

When I speak of hamster baiting, I'm talking about toying with a woman's rationalization hamster to see what I can get her to do for me up to a point. Getting her to do my bidding, like telling her I want her to wear something slightly inappropriate to the office; to wear underwear I choose, or none at all; etc. Basically seeing how far she will go while still rationalizing her behavior.

The problem is that the boundary can be fuzzy, and is negotiable since it was established by an agreement between my ego and my testicles. Neither of them has a reputation for strong ethical convictions. Worse, were I to pursue this, I would already have abrogated some of my ethics, so when I hit the next boundary, the ego says, "What's wrong with pushing it a little further?" and it keeps saying that until we're drunk and naked, hopped up on endorphins after a sexual encounter that would make porn stars ask us to keep it down a little. She's the kind of girl who would equate sex with love and start making wedding plans the moment there was sexual contact.

This can be fun in a relationship: telling your girlfriend to do something sexy for the day can result in AMAZING sex that night if you play it right. But this isn't a relationship, and I have no intentions of forming one with her (nuttier than squirrel poop, remember?). Playing that game with her would be manipulative, selfish, and cruel: That's not how I roll.

That's one of the reasons why I posted it: When I draw my darker desires out into the light through writing, my understanding of them grows immensely. I've got to thank you for asking about the term, because typing all of that out made me realize a great deal. I knew acting on the baiting impulse was A Bad Idea, but now I know more intimately why it is such a bad idea, and how shitty it would be to do so. It's similar to women who use an inferred promise of sex to get what they want from desperate guys.

I'm not opposed to a romp, or having that kind of fun with a woman, but my ethics require that she know my intentions.

Wise man. I heard it said once that good judgement often comes from making bad decisions. I think that was somewhere in "The Mechanic".

Yeah, I've made a few bad decisions, and I may be wiser now than I was then, but I haven't stopped learning.


* Linkage: http://theprivateman.wordpress.com/2011/...-immortal/