Sean's AM Journal

[Sean]

But for me, wearing a set of clothes that reflects my inner feelings about myself is important, because it reflects this to others. Others, like it or not, do judge us based on how we look. Females especially. So for me to dress well makes me feel good about myself, and allows me simultaneously to express my level of self respect, as well as tell the ladies, "Yes, I am someone you want to get to know better, because I am a quality man." - which is important, if you want to not just attract them, but attract the right ones. How you dress will determine which type of woman you attract, because those you attract will naturally resonate to the type of man who dresses as you are dressed.

I get much the same internal response to dressing well. I my internal self-status meter goes up accordingly. I rarely did this in the past because it felt odd, mostly because my suits don't fit me properly. I'm going to get that fixed in the near future, here. There's an excellent tailor in town, so I'll have him fit the suits to me.

Recently, I got some really nice shoes which are flexible: casual with jeans or chinos, or more formal with a suit. I got good shoes, which fit well and are comfortable. I cringe when I remember my Bostonians, which were mildly uncomfortable when I put them on and pure joy to remove at the end of the day because my feet were really uncomfortable.

So I mix those shoes with my jeans and a button down shirt, and I'm feeling the upgrade. Everything feels easier. Also, many women will look at a man's shoes and judge him by them. If you have some snazzy kicks on, you'll get further along than if you're wearing worn-out running shoes.