06-23-2024, 03:13 PM
Wow. What an open and honest fellow you are Darwin. Salute and much respect Man.
Keith.
quote="Darwin" pid='264405' dateline='1719178586']
Hey Shannon,
Thanks for coming back to doing something on self esteem. This is something I have wanted for a long time. I had a couple of suggestions for your consideration.
Self compassion. Most of the time self esteem and respect falters because we don’t have the skill of being compassionate to our mistakes, and we adopt inappropriate means of self soothing when the inevitable fuck ups happen. Being able to release that oxytocin, be forgiving to yourself helps to get back on the wagon. Embedding the skill of effective self soothing would be helpful.
Self assertiveness. A big part of self respect is being faithful to your own soul. This means being able to say no and follow you consciousness. Failure to do this results in self betrayal and then breaks consciousness because you have to ignore more and more of what your inner self is saying.
Finally there is consciousness itself. Being able to see and pay attention to what is. The reality, rather than the mental story. Having this, being able to trust your own mind feels like it’s the fundamental key that’s missing. Once you can trust your mind, forgive where you fall short, and then act on what you can clearly reason - pick up what to take responsibility for and be purposeful - that’s it. Self esteem unlocked. That’s what I want forever.
Just some thoughts. I’ve been struggling with this for as long as I can remember and I’m pretty tired of it. Feels like I’ve got no future at the moment because I just never get there - and often it’s my own inner critic which is killing my progress.
Peace.
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Keith.
quote="Darwin" pid='264405' dateline='1719178586']
Hey Shannon,
Thanks for coming back to doing something on self esteem. This is something I have wanted for a long time. I had a couple of suggestions for your consideration.
Self compassion. Most of the time self esteem and respect falters because we don’t have the skill of being compassionate to our mistakes, and we adopt inappropriate means of self soothing when the inevitable fuck ups happen. Being able to release that oxytocin, be forgiving to yourself helps to get back on the wagon. Embedding the skill of effective self soothing would be helpful.
Self assertiveness. A big part of self respect is being faithful to your own soul. This means being able to say no and follow you consciousness. Failure to do this results in self betrayal and then breaks consciousness because you have to ignore more and more of what your inner self is saying.
Finally there is consciousness itself. Being able to see and pay attention to what is. The reality, rather than the mental story. Having this, being able to trust your own mind feels like it’s the fundamental key that’s missing. Once you can trust your mind, forgive where you fall short, and then act on what you can clearly reason - pick up what to take responsibility for and be purposeful - that’s it. Self esteem unlocked. That’s what I want forever.
Just some thoughts. I’ve been struggling with this for as long as I can remember and I’m pretty tired of it. Feels like I’ve got no future at the moment because I just never get there - and often it’s my own inner critic which is killing my progress.
Peace.
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