10-31-2019, 07:03 PM
(10-30-2019, 03:01 PM)Have at ye Wrote: Also, you don't know whether his mother went through any actual "hardships" of this sort, if any. People tend to bemoan how they had to walk uphill in the snow *both* ways to school when they were young, especially when they hadn't. People who actually had it tough and have then achieved something usually don't go around spewing ***** like this.
I never really acknowledged this particular point in Have at Ye's post, but I would like to highlight it now and add that my mother is particularly known within my immediate family for gaslighting, re-writing history in her head and remembering things imnacurately so that they better suit whatever narrative she prefers, and generally just not being a reliable or trustworthy person when it comes to the telling the truth or being honest. I honestly do have to question the accuracy of almost every self servi g claim she makes, ESPECIALLY about the past and ESPECIALLY if it happened during a time and/or im a place mobody else was arpund to remember otherwise and contradict her with the facts. But even if she DID go through some sort of harder setback than I'm dealing with (assuming you can truly make a hierarchy of significance when it comes to problems which isn't entirely subjective and is without any dostortion) you would THINK it would have taught her to be more compassionate and understanding of other peoples' concerns and make her want to see other have BETTER experiences than what she had to deal with because people deserve to experience better. Instead, it's become an excuse for her to be LESS compassionate, LESS supportive, LESS understanding, LESS patient, LESS positive and generally just A WHOLE LOT LESS beneficial to be around or interact with than otherwise. If she really DID have to deal with all the shit she's claimed to have to deal with, and it really WAS as negative an experience as she perceives it to be in hindsight, it hasn't made her a better person for it or changed her for the better. It's had a NEGATIVE effect on her development. Why would I want to follow in her footsteps, adopt the same mentality or accept the same limitating beleifs/attitudes that lead ro her having such experiences and developing in such a negative way. Her thinking when expressing such outlooks is based on a logical fallacy known as Appeal to Relative Privation. Every time she ever bitches about ANY of her problems, I could just do the same thing amd go "Pfft! There are starving children in Africa, therefor your concerns are irrelevant and trivial" Stupid line of thinking, right? Now you can understand why it gets my goat, Greenduck. Thank you, Have at Ye for pointing this out.
