08-10-2019, 09:02 PM
(08-10-2019, 08:39 PM)THolt Wrote:(08-08-2019, 01:11 PM)EvolvingPhoenix Wrote:(08-08-2019, 11:48 AM)THolt Wrote: In spite of this I would still be appreciative of what your parents do. I moved out last year but i am more appreciative now than when I lived there. Also remember your parents will not be around forever. In spite of the poor relationship me and my dad had, I appreciate when told and did for me earlier. I’m not as critical too. Just remember that.
Maybe offer to do stuff for your parents as a sign of appreciation .
I AM appreciative of what my parents do. You are making a false assumption that I am not. I wonder, what gives you the impression that I do not appreciate what my parents do? Because I assert that I am being treated unfairly and refuse to allow myself to be bullied? There is a serious problem in the world (and especially in the east, but even here in the west too it seems) where people assume that if you don't unconditionally submit to your parents, regardless of how they treat you, you are a) disrespectful and b) unappreciative. This is a toxic belief and I refuse to cosign it. I DO do things around the house, AS I KEEP SAYING and apparently, people keep ignoring, making yet again another false assumption about me: the assumption that I do nothing to help out. Maybe I don't do enough, and I will work on that, but I DO in fact help out. Please do not jump to false assumptions about me. Thank you.
My bad. I wasn’t implying you didn’t do anything. I didn’t realize you had the long standing issues with your dad. No need to get mad.
It’s good that you and your dad reconciled.
It's fine. Thanks for the apology. And yeah, I'm glad things worked out between me and my dad too. I was worried at one point that I might need to hustle for money to move out. I still intend to spend a year on UMS though.
