07-13-2019, 10:53 AM
Have you never understood that letting go of her is the best way to have a chance at reconciliation? It's the same thing with trying to attract women sexually and romantically. The man who doesn't need them (isn't needy) gets their attention and interest. Doing more of what drove her away in the first place (being needy, asking her to take responsibility for you) won't help.
That is why you naturally get what you want after you don't need it anymore. It's true in a lot of directions, too. Neediness = focus on lack, which creates that lack.
If you let go of her - and I mean truly let go of her, all the way - you're actually making it much more likely that she'll end up your friend again. But I don't think you're being honest with yourself here. I think you don't miss her friendship; I think you're in love with her.
That is why you naturally get what you want after you don't need it anymore. It's true in a lot of directions, too. Neediness = focus on lack, which creates that lack.
If you let go of her - and I mean truly let go of her, all the way - you're actually making it much more likely that she'll end up your friend again. But I don't think you're being honest with yourself here. I think you don't miss her friendship; I think you're in love with her.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
