Transcendent Sith Lord's DMSI 3.3 D Journal

[Shannon]

I did want to ask a personal question if you didn't mind @Shannon . Have you ever had to deal with a women who seemed quite obsessed with you before? I know for the filipina she has at times, while I'm asleep due to time zone difference, text me multiple times or call a lot. She has even thought when I haven't answered that I might be made at her for some reason. I get the feeling that she is one of those women that feels insecure about the status of her relationship with her man and needs to constantly have confirmation that things are alright between her and me. I guess this might play into her Deferent (as she puts it) attitude towards her significant other. Where she just usually agrees to go along with whatever he decides. Eh, don't know if all that is healthy or not. Maybe that its just the way she sees her relationships. Constantly want to make sure it is running smoothly.

High value men naturally trigger obsessive reactions from some types of women. The higher value a man is perceived to be, the more obsessed will she become if that is her nature, because she wants to be with that man so much.

I have a tendency to have women become obsessive about me. I have even had stalkers on a couple of occasions.

In her case, what you describe arises from insecurity, worrying about not being secure in her relationship, not being taken care of or cared about, losing the stability and security her relationship/man provides. It's not really a bad thing, as you have two good options for dealing with it:

1. You simply make sure she feels secure in her relationship with you.
2. You can use subliminals to help her grow into more self security if option #1 doesn't pan out.

Whether or not #1 works depends on how insecure she is and how immature she is. Some women are too insecure, and no matter what you do, will remain so unless you help them heal and clear the trauma that created that situation. Some women are so afraid of growing that they will submit to you to have you deal with what scares them, and in exchange for allowing her to stagnate instead of face and outgrow her fears.

Now if the state she is in is cool with you and she doesn't want to grow past her fears, that can be a good agreement. If you need her to grow to fulfill you, that could be an issue. I actually left my last girlfriend because after 4 years of me working to help her, she was still barely showing growth and my current girlfriend showed up, took my help, and achieved more growth in 4 months. I decided that if the first one didn't want to grow, then she was welcome to stagnate, but I have a life to live, and started with the one I have now. She does a great job of growing with me.

But, if I didn't need my old GF to grow with me, it would have been a great arrangement. She was submissive (not in a D/s way), and willing to be a part of me having multiple girlfriends at once. She was willing to cook and clean for me, give me sex whenever I wanted it, wherever I wanted it, however I wanted it, and all without me even asking for this. But what she was doing was trying to trade these things for me allowing her to hide from her fears, and I couldn't do that.

Your females may not have that issue. You may be happy to let them be what and who they are now, without changing or growing. My experience, we started off with me only agreeing to date her because she struck me as being in a bad situation I knew how to help her get out of, and I was willing to give her a chance to grow into her real potential.