DMSI 3.2

[Omni3]

Confusion sounds like he's a manipulator, I think getting tangled up with him would have some negative consequences. If you're engaging in the healing again, you might have old insecurities pop up. Confusion sounds like the type of guy that can pick up on those and twist your mind to get what he wants. Overall I think that would be really bad for the healing process.

I appreciate you saying this, Mat. You're right about him. He has always tried to make me feel insecure about myself. He and I have also engaged in emotional outbursts in front of other people. He gets more emotional than I do. He is either very nice or he's enraged. I've been keeping my distance. I will take your advice as best as I can in this situation.

Yep, I think 'make the target feel insecure' would be lesson no 1 in the manipulator's handbook. I had an associate/business partner once and when I didn't agree with his dishonesty/manipulations and called him on it he said - rather than calling it dishonesty he preferred the term machiavellian ('Arch Manipulator'). So some people are twisted and can't 'see the light.'

The best way to deal with such person's is to hold a strong self awareness/centredness. They will want to trigger any lower emotions one is trying to supress - they will find joy in this - they'll feel they can control you because they can trigger you. Remove the trigger and they are powerless. I feel DMSI and many of Shannon's subs naturally help one achieve this. But getting some space during the process is valuable. Also check out YT vids on Narcissists.